A timeline of retail shopping in America and abroad is an excellent vehicle for women of our cohort to chart their personal histories. Coming of age when individually owned shops prevailed, entering our prime during the age of the shopping mall, moving forward during the Big Box store revolution, and now aging during the dominance of online shopping have made us nimble, but not necessarily satisfied customers.
We all know about digital natives, but I could be described as a “retail native.”
I have spent a good amount of my life shopping for recreation and necessities. I count some of my favorite items as those found by serendipity through the years. For instance, I have an old polar fleece throw purchased in New England on a vacation in the 1980s, when that was the first location in the world where polar fleece was manufactured (Malden Mills).
I have a way-too-big, fine mesh colander which I bought at a small shop. I’ve repurposed it for my weekly fruit ripening ritual. I would never own an authentic Pendleton cross-body bag if I hadn’t accidentally found it at Marshall’s.
Most recently, searching for the perfect gift for my husband as a souvenir of a recent solo trip, I found a charming volume of baseball stories at an independent bookstore in Denver. None of those items could have been plucked easily from the millions of offerings online. The sad fact is that these events are becoming quite rare. Covid is somewhat to blame for our changes in shopping habits, but aging also plays a role. I’ve written about these ideas previously in my post, Have You Reset Your Shopping Habits?
Shopping has its roots in early humans bargaining with others in their sphere for items they did not have or those they needed. In the years before the common era (BCE), open markets and commercial centers in Rome, China and the Middle East flourished. These bazaars, on predictable days, persisted through Medieval times and morphed into permanent shops, arcades, mail order businesses, and more recently shopping malls and Big Box stores. The most recent iteration is online shopping, and its close cousin, a hybrid mix of brick and mortar stores coupled with tech services, or omnichannel shopping.
It is impossible to ignore the many retail chains which are closing their doors every week. With their passing, I would never have guessed that in the US, physical stores have an 81% share of the retail market. Currently, 45% of shoppers prefer brick and mortar stores, including a majority of baby boomers. 28% prefer online shopping, with younger folks enjoying both platforms. According to business.yougov.com, only 4% of shoppers always buy online, but only 3% only buy in person. The rest have a hybrid plan.
Most often, categories of goods determine the buying platform. 69% buy groceries in-store; 50% buy furniture in-store, but tech items are purchased by 36% online, and clothing is a mixed bag: 27% online, 35% in person, 33% purchase between the two.
To understand why shopping isn’t nearly as much fun or serendipitous as it has been in our younger years, you need to understand the data driven universe of retail. AI and machine learning analyze customer and product data to automate and optimize retail processes. (How many retail “club tabs” do you have hanging from your keychain?)
There is an incessant hoovering of customer preferences and sales, which are then analyzed in terms of purchase history, browsing behavior, and demographic information to predict needed inventories. This is a far cry from your favorite store of the 70s or 80s, whose inventory was based on the owner’s individual aesthetic, which aligned perfectly with yours!
Data points relating to seasonal trends and other mathematical formulas offer up the correct quantity of inventory possessing the desired variety and depth. Such gyrations might lead you to that Target purchase which you can never repurchase in the future!
Luckily, all is not in the realm of predictive algorithms. The human value of “treasure hunting” encourages retailers to change up their products, create alluring displays, and send out those quasi-subliminal texts or emails about new products.
The human need for viewing, touching and interacting with physical products is probably hard wired in our DNA. That is the way our ancestors have been shopping for millennia, and the shopping experience can be enormously satisfying.
The hallmark of a successful shopping experience encourages the happy, accidental discovery. Shopping is a social event. One can be accompanied by friends or family, but at the very least there is an encounter with a store clerk who can provide needed assistance or some cordial interaction.
In their best form, shop displays offer a quality sensory experience through spatial design, craftsmanship, and an artisan culture. They can offer personalized service, curated products, and greater local emphasis. Shops can be a vital part of a community. There is also an immediate benefit to a purchase which has no wait time or shipping fees.
To me, the Big Box algorithms make a shopping experience more functional than fun. I’m not sure if my demographic was part of the data set which was harvested at a corporate location far from my home. I never find the selection of items as broad as they once were. Although we balked at the lack of toilet paper on the shelves during the pandemic, I find that I am more surprised when a store actually has what I need than when it doesn’t.
I don’t think any of us are excited about the possibility of a drone dropping off packages at our front doors. As clever as AI is thought to be, I am not looking forward to sharing my shopping list with a neural network. I’ve got a perfectly functioning one myself.
As an older woman, I am thrilled to have an inventory of clothing and household items which could never be purchased in today’s market. Both the functional and decorative items are of uniform high quality, were chosen from a vast array that doesn’t exist today, and many evoke wonderful memories.
We will all need to shop regularly in the future. There are groceries to buy, broken items that need to be replaced, and we need reasons to leave the house. It just might be possible to recreate those nostalgic, serendipitous feelings when traveling, at flea markets and vintage stores, and shopping locally, as the last stakeholders try to hold on.
Promising behaviors by younger shoppers include the “No Buy Movement,” a desire to curb impulse shopping, reduce debt, and limit environmental impact. Communal events held in local stores are also a popular choice. Pledges by the young and old to only purchase used clothing, consume or grow organic food, and share unwanted items on the websites Freecycle or Facebook Marketing are all reactions to unsatisfying and compulsive shopping.
We are all consumers in one form or another. The delight of finding a unique item is not a pleasure which should be ejected. No doubt, there is a certain thrill in finding an item that perfectly hits the sweet spot of need and personal appreciation.
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How has shopping changed over the course of your life? Do you have any ways to make shopping less functional and more fun? Do your age or physical condition dictate your shopping habits?
I only buy used clothes (except underwear, shoes, pajamas, and socks!) and I am thrilled not to have to ever go inside a store. I buy everything online consignment. I browse through the offerings on my break and have found amazing and unexpected finds. It’s better for the environment, easier on my pocketbook, and takes far less time.
I do all of my shopping in-person, and support locally-owned businesses as much as possible. If I must order something online, I let my son do it for me.
For me, it’s about preserving a sense of community. I never use self-checkout, and know the first names of the cashiers in the grocery store, and maybe their kids and pets, too. :)
I also like to shop at thrift stores that support local youth programs. I could just mail in a donation, but then I’d never find those ‘amazing treasures’ one often finds in places like that!
A few years ago we lost the only photography store in town, family owned for two generations. They held free monthly talks on photography topics, and had coffee and cookies on hand. The nearest photo store now is about 5 hours away. :(
I prefer to shop in store, however, lately I find customer service to be lacking resulting in a frustrated shopping experience.
I’m 74. Even during my prime working years, I found shopping for clothes to be a necessary evil. With the exception of bookstores, I have always avoided in-person shopping
I like to buy food in person and don’t like food delivered. However, for.me, shopping online has really become 75% of.my habit. Over here, Belgium, I have my favourite in person shops but quite honestly, it’s often the case that shopkeepers just can’t be bothered to serve you pleasantly hence why I use Amazon.
I’m definitely a 75% (or more) online shopper as well. Better selection, available sizes, and ability to shop when & where I want. I pay close attention to return policies, but haven’t had to return anything to date!
Return is easy. Yes the sélection is pretty impressive