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Needing a Virtual Hug in My 60s

By Wendy Ann Hulbert July 15, 2023 Mindset

Here I sit, tucked away in a quiet, distant corner of Orlando airport, waiting to board a flight to London, ready to start my new life: yet again. My emotional swings have been crazy today; I awakened full of beans, excited, optimistic for my new chapter to begin, absolutely convinced that the shock waves of my divorce two years ago were finally behind me, and the ripple effect of extreme highs and crushing lows was now firmly in the rear view mirror.

But no, it took just a momentary peek in the mirror to deflate my new found confidence. I see a woman of 64 who has been living overseas for most of her adult years, and is embarking upon a self-imposed new life back home in Blighty, and it’s daunting.

I’m a little scared.

My life has been a rollercoaster for the past 30 months, since that awful day we mutually agreed it was time to go our separate ways. We had become one of those dreaded statistics of husband and wife living separate lives and simply drifting apart. I knew it was the right decision, but I’ve been adrift ever since, searching for my equilibrium, and I still haven’t found it.

Following My Heart

So, I made a very important decision. I realized that I must go back to the fold of my nurturing lifelong friends, the very small remaining family I have left, the country that holds the key to my soul, and the good memories and nostalgia that I crave.

I must get on this flight today and be courageous, otherwise I am in danger of spiraling into overwhelming sadness that I may find it too hard to climb back from. I must put my two feet firmly on English soil, and find the old me, the me that was always full of joie de vivre, the life and soul of the party, the gregarious version.

It’s imperative that I find the old Wendy before the new empty, unfulfilled Wendy gets a vine like grip, and won’t let go.

It’s been too long since I was hugged, since I made a man’s eyes light up when I walked into the room, since I received a bunch of beautiful flowers, since I didn’t have to be brave and make all the decisions on my own all of the time. It’s simply been too long.

And I wonder how many of you have experienced this? It is not so easy to share our sorrow and our insecurities, is it?

I did not envision, and certainly did not want to be facing the world in my seventh decade as a newly single woman. I practice an Attitude of Gratitude every day, because there are too many wonderful events that have graced my life, and most importantly, I am super healthy. I don’t want to portray a woman steeped in gloom, because I am not.

There is just a void in my life, and I can’t seem to find my way to fill it. Yet I am optimistic that this latest huge life change will nourish my soul.

Pursuing My Solution

I’m keen to share my journey with you ladies in the coming months if I may, as I negotiate my new life back in the UK. There will inevitably be down times, amazing new experiences, laughter, tears, and lots of cuddles with my two new cats that I have been manifesting for many months now. I can’t wait for cat purrs, and fishy kisses!

I would be thrilled to have you connect with me in the comments, if you so wish, or follow me from afar if you so desire. May I ask you for a virtual hug or to virtually hold my hand every once in a while? It would mean the world to me, and I would be happy to reciprocate. Certainly, I have learned that bottling up such raw emotion is detrimental: sharing is cathartic.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you had life-altering experiences that you may like to share? Maybe you are currently facing your own set of unique challenges? Do you think divorce in earlier years is easier to move on from than gray divorce?

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Marian Camden

Here is your first virtual hug of what I’m sure will be many! Your courageous vulnerability speaks right to my heart as I know it will to others. I’ve been in that void place a time or two or three in my life. From the other side I want to reassure you: there actually is the other side! Best of luck, sweet soul, and do keep us posted.

bridget anniebridgie

That is so uplifting to read, a real reassurance, we all fear change and the ‘other side’ it’s great to know you found it, and you are happy.


Dear Bridget, I am so glad you found benefit from my article. I am still working on “the happy”, but the scales are tipping in that direction :)


Dear Marian, thank you so much for that first hug: it felt very reassuring, and indeed, was followed by many more! I will keep you posted for sure :)


Divorce is hard at any age. My husband and I divorced after 29 yrs of marriage. We were divorced for 11 years and then remarried. Its very strange, not at all like those 29 yrs. I’m happy with our second try. The thing is I have no family left, friends have passed on or moved away. I find myself at 72 very concerned about my future should something happen to him. I wanted to travel and now I know we can’t. Age hasn’t been good to us.
I wish you the very best on your new life’s plan. You are very brave taking control of your life. I would love to hear more when you are ready to share again. You are inspiring.


Dear Sandy, what an intriguing story, and a theme that I will be following up in my next blog. Thank you for your insight.



Wendy hulbert

Perfect, thank you :)


I started your journey 13 years ago. After so many years if daily tears I too set off in discovery. So many twists and turns along the way. I pray you find your way and send you a warm embrace, hug, sharing of strength and possibilities. Hopefully my email tags here so you can contact me if that would be helpful. Prayers for good things!


Here for you. I totally understand

Wendy hulbert

Thank you Donna :)

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The Author

Wendy is a world traveler, having worked for many years on cruise ships, and lived in multiple countries during her adult life. In recent years Wendy pursues her passion for writing and sharing her gypsy soul experiences in various forms. Follow her on Instagram: wendygypsysoulcelebrant and read her Substack column at

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