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Weight Loss for Accomplished Women Over 60 Tired of Feeling Obsessed with Food

If you’re an accomplished woman over 60 who is tired of feeling obsessed with food, but wants to lose weight, you will learn the 3 steps to weight loss in this article.

Those steps are:

  1. Heal your food obsession
  2. Change your thinking from “weight loss” to “weight management”
  3. Experiment with weight management strategies

Step 1: Heal Your Food Obsession

The first step to losing weight for women over 60 who are tired of feeling obsessed with food is to heal the food obsession so you can make consistently healthy choices that lead to weight loss.

The food obsession is caused by decades of All or Nothing Dieting where you either have to “eat perfectly” or “what’s the point?”, causing you to distrust yourself around food. You probably blame yourself, thinking you have a willpower or self-control problem, but the problem isn’t you, it’s All or Nothing Dieting.

All or Nothing Dieting Has Taught You:

  • That you can’t be trusted around food because stress hormones activated by feeling deprived are causing strong urges to eat.
  • To rely on food to care for your emotional needs, whether you realize it or not, because food works so well to allow you to “zone out.”

And all of this has left you feeling simultaneously exhausted by and obsessed with food. But take heart, there is hope!

The Solution to Heal Your Food Obsession Is to Cultivate the Courage to Trust

To heal from the damage caused by All or Nothing Dieting so you can stop feeling obsessed about food, you need to cultivate the Courage to Trust.

The Courage to Trust that:

  • Food isn’t the problem (and neither are you).
  • You can hear and respond to the cues your body is giving you, instead of eating to numb or restricting for control.
  • You can mindfully indulge AND consistently make nourishing choices.
  • You are worthy of care and love, just as you are, even while pursuing weight loss.

Step 2: Change Your Thinking from “Weight Loss” to “Weight Management”

Once you’ve healed your food obsession, the next step to weight loss for women over 60 is to change the way you think about weight.

Weight Loss Vs. Weight Management

The way we used to think about weight was in the context of weight loss. The belief was you would drastically change your eating and lifestyle by All or Nothing Dieting, lose large amounts of weight, and then be done.

Experience has taught anyone who has ever experienced All or Nothing weight loss that this doesn’t work.

The scientific evidence points to a new way of thinking about weight, called weight management. Weight management is a continual process of:

  • Losing weight
  • Monitoring your weight to maintain
  • Periods of regain

Reframing your thinking to weight management stops you from getting discouraged and feeling like a failure when regain occurs.

Weight management allows monitoring your weight to be a more neutral act. Stepping on the scale no longer determines how “good” you’ve been or whether the rest of your day will be full of anxiety.

Rather, monitoring your weight becomes akin to monitoring the amount of food in your pantry to determine when you need to grocery shop again.

While grocery shopping is at times an annoying task, the need to grocery shop (and indeed move to a different part of the weight management process) is not a reflection of your worth and value.

Step 3: Experiment with Weight Management Strategies

There is no one-size-fits-all with weight loss. Finding a way of eating that you can maintain for the rest of your life, meets your nutrient needs, and keeps your energy intake lower than your energy output is key.

That being said, there are a few important factors to consider for women over 60 who want to lose weight:

Don’t Go Below 1200 Calories Per Day

Eating too little can make it hard to meet nutritional needs for women over 60.

For example, calcium recommendations increase to 1200 mg after age 50 for women (that’s the equivalent of about four 8-ounce glasses of milk).

Additionally, changes in physiology can decrease Vitamin B12 and iron absorption, especially with chronic use of medications called proton pump inhibitors, commonly used for reflux.

To ensure you are meeting your nutritional needs and learn about potential drug-nutrient interactions related to your prescriptions, consider consulting with a Registered Dietitian for personalized advice.

Focus on Protein to Avoid Sarcopenia

Sarcopenia is age-related muscle decline that affects anywhere from 10-20% of women over 60 worldwide. This disease is associated with poorer quality of life and an increased risk of death.

Because weight loss attempts may result in less nutrient intake and muscle loss, it’s important to factor in anti-sarcopenia measures into your weight management plan.

The good news is, there are several evidence-based strategies to reduce your risk of and even treat sarcopenia:

  • Focus on protein. Research suggests 25-30g of protein per meal may help prevent sarcopenia.
  • Move your body! Avoid long periods of inactivity and add muscle-strengthening activities like weightlifting into your routine.
  • Eat more fruits, vegetables, whole grains and plant-based proteins. These foods are anti-inflammatory, and inflammation may increase the risk of sarcopenia.

Determine if Weight Is the Best Focus for You

It’s true that weight management requires continual attention over your life. For some people that sounds exhausting and not fun at all.

You can heal your relationship with tools like the scale and tracking if weight management is important to you (or find other ways to monitor without them). And yet, it’s also important to point out that you can choose not to pursue weight management, and still work on increasing healthy behaviors.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Can you see how thinking about weight in terms of “management” versus “loss” would set you up for success? Have you noticed that “All or Nothing Dieting” has led to food obsession for you? What weight management strategies have you experimented with?

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Polly Salt

I’ll be 70 in December and I find it a problem to have 1200 a day not because I eat too much of the “wrong” stuff but because I’m not hungry and don’t eat enough,I’m not a big fan of things like pies, chips fatty stuff but I find I can’t be bothered to cook it feels like a chore when I’d much rather be out walking in the fabulous countryside………I really don’t know what the answer is

Celia Bass

I am 77 and now weigh 135 at 5’2”. Until I retired from my classroom after 30 years of teaching, I never weighed over 105. After retirement I broke my hip and have had foot surgery. Both complications have kept me sitting for long periods of time and my weight has edged up and up. I try to walk at least a mile a day, and I go to yoga fusion twice a week. I try to keep my calories at 1200/ day. I am so frustrated that this weight keeps hanging on no matter what I seem to do. People look at me when I complain because they don’t understand that even though my weight is very low compared to many, I feel extremely overweight and uncomfortable. Any advice?

Linda

My downfall is snacking on potato chips!

Lisa Stege

Have you ever thought about not bringing them into your house?

Pastelholic

Linda and Lisa,
Linda-I love chips too! Lisa-I have tried that strategy, but it seems to eventually make me feel deprived. It’s like I’m saying “I can’t trust myself if this food is in the house” and then I’m making that food forbidden. It becomes more important. I would avoid entire sections of the grocery store. I dropped my weight down to size 6, great accomplishment and it was hard won. Gave up sugar and didn’t eat potatoes or snacks like chips. Eventually I ended up realizing having a few potato chips wasn’t the end of the world. But like bacon being the gateway meat for vegetarians to start eating meat again, pretzels and potato chips led me back to chocolate, sweets and bagels. Bagels are a definite weakness for me. But food isn’t the enemy. I believe in moderation, but it’s hard to achieve when cravings start. I really don’t know the answer. Discipline deserts me at times. Throw in a pandemic or a death in the family and it’s hard not to indulge in my favorite comfort foods. Chips are definitely one of those. I can eat just a few, so there’s that….I am active and do yoga and eat healthy in most other ways, am not diabetic or have any health conditions that would make certain foods dangerous for me. It’s more about feeling good and being able to fit into my clothes. I’m between sizes now and hope to get back to size 10, only a year ago I fit into size 8. It’s a struggle. I feel like I deserve to have what I want since life is short and tasty food is one of life’s pleasures. Tomorrow I will try again. I will get there. Part of it is deciding it matters to me that I get back to size 10, then size 8, and if it takes a year, that’s okay. I’m sure I’m not alone. If, in that moment, I really want ice cream, then I have it. Perhaps not a huge sundae, just a small bowl.

Mary

I am currently on Semiglutide and have great success. After being widowed 17 months ago, my grief and the cortisol increased my cravings for sugar and salt. Used food to comfort. Semiglutide has taken those away and I am feeling great as I lose the weigh I need to. I tried all the traditional stuff first and nothing would work. Losing weight at 68 is hard. I do go to the gym and try to stay as active as possible.

The Author

Cassie Christopher is a Masters-trained Registered Dietitian who helps women in midlife and beyond create a supportive relationship with food, their bodies, and health so they can eat with joy instead of eating to seek joy. You can get immediate help when you're experiencing a craving by downloading Cassie's Cravings Busting audio guide.

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