I was a roly-poly kid, a squishy teen, and a squashier young adult (ages 18 to 36). Like most of us, I’ve yo-yo’d through a bazillion diets and a million more workouts with the likes of Jane Fonda; Lilias, Yoga and You; and Jazzercise, but I never created a permeant loss for myself.
Never even came close.
But guess what? (You might want to sit down.) The world has moved on from ye diets of old. We’re in a new year – inside a young century – and we know a lot more about how to lose weight. And stay tuned, because there’s exciting news on the forever-loss front as well.
Even when I was little, I was big. I started to balloon around the age of seven.
I was teased in school, of course, but was bummed to see that even the adults got in on the action. From coworkers I’d hear, “You’d be so pretty if you’d lose weight.”
From a family member when seeing me in my new red robe at Christmas, “You look like Santa.”
Such fun.
But by my early 40s, I lost 55-pounds (with toddlers running around); fast-forward 17 years and I’ve kept the original loss off. (No yo-yo-ing and I’m currently 60.)

In a nutshell, it’s not in the diet-world’s best interest for you and me to figure out how to have a forever-loss. So, we have to figure it out ourselves.
Over the last 17 years, I pieced together a map that details how to create a long-term, permeant weight loss.
Thanks to two masterpiece books, Atomic Habits by James Clear and The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, along with a super cool study on habits out of England, we have a more detailed understanding about how successful long-term change happens and how habit is the force behind so much good in our lives, but especially for a long-term weight loss.
James Clear tells us, “We’re not human beings. We’re habit beings.”
Given that, let’s say that strong embedded habits – that’ll have our backs forever – are the foundation of our house. And that new mindsets and super skills are the well-built house’s frame.
So, based on our smart home, this is what I figured out: smart eating habits + powerful new mindsets + precision super skills put you and me on the path to a forever weight loss.
Let me give you a handful of examples.
The pain is real. Shopping at Costco is only for the most skilled shopper because it’s too easy to run in for red grapes and come out with a double kayak.
But I’ve created the habit of going to Costco two or three times a month for the following:
Now, here’s the real trick: besides shopping at Costco, I made more habits for myself like I stay out of the bakery and candy aisle entirely. Haven’t seen them in years.

As you might have noticed, our culture is riddled with come-hither food. So, save yourself by asking the strongest of questions (that I use all the time), “Do I want the donuts or do I want to be a size 10”? (This sentence whisks me out of inappropriate-eating land – cookies, candy, ice cream – in a blink.) Best of all, the more you use this question, the stronger it gets.
Relying on willpower to take us to our preferred weight is so last century. It went the way of yo-yo dieting.
And good riddance.

I always carry a cold-tote packed with healthy bites and take the tote everywhere when I’m out and about. In my cold-tote you’ll likely find a hard-boiled egg, mini whole wheat banana muffins, a sliced apple, a small yogurt cup and so forth. I usually take two or three of the tiny bites with me.
With your cold-tote’s riding shotgun, you’ll never succumb to the donut shop and the fast-not-food drive thrus again.
Instead of willpower (which never worked long-term anyway), we’re replacing the vintage method of yo-yo-ing with seriously upleveled habits, mindsets, and super skills.
It’s 2025 and we’re jumping in the brand-new chapter that’s unfolding in our lives.
Just begin.
We at Sixty & Me thoroughly enjoyed reading Wendy’s personal and insightful article. Let’s take a look at some tools and modern tech that can help you on your habit-forming journey.
Leveraging technology can be a game-changer when it comes to forming and maintaining habits for long-term weight loss. Here’s a look at some of the most effective tools and apps available, categorized for easy selection:
Building better habits starts with tracking progress consistently. These habit trackers make it simple to stay on course:
Understanding what you eat is critical for weight loss and maintenance. These apps simplify calorie tracking and promote balanced nutrition:
These apps help you plan and prepare healthy meals, saving time and reducing decision fatigue:
Read The Best Question to ask yourself When Losing Weight after 60.
Also, read How I Use My Lazy Gene to Uplevel My Weight Loss Success.
Have you ever wondered why weight maintenance has seemed so elusive? Do you blame yourself for a “lack of willpower?” What do you think about creating strong habits that serve you? Do you think our understanding of weight loss grows from decade to decade?
I did a lot of research and reading and Intermittent fasting worked for me and I feel excellent and very healthy. I’ve been doing it for 2+ years. It helps to be flexible. It’s fairly easy once you get the hang of it. Daily exercise is important as well. Walking is the best thing and very easy. I started back with county line dancing and that also provides many benefits.
Is there anyone out there besides me who doesn’t like apps for everything??? I’m almost 68, and miserable about my weight, which I have not always been. My husband of just 2.5 years is tall, slim, and can basically eat anything. I’ve talked to my doctor about it several times. She’s willing to prescribe “the shots”, but I’m terrified of the possible side effects, not to mention the cost.
and I have a question: does everyone trying to lose just totally give up alcohol?
Hi Lee Ann!
You are at a great age to learn the ins and outs of how I maintain a 55-pound loss for eighteen years now.. I promise you that you can reach your preferred weight and keep it for a lifetime. I’m a former therapist. My ideas are very different from the average.. But this isn’t an app, just a blog at http://www.theInspiredEater.com. Totally free.
Although unlike your husband you won’t be able to “eat anything you want.” lol. But you can be slim. I like to say, “here’s exactly what I did, just follow my cake crumbs. :)
Good for you to be 68 and just married….. I have a new love who is slim and eats anything…. And his numbers are great. I would like to lose weight too, and feel the same way about the shots.
I’ve been on the shots for 2 years and also gave up alcohol at that time. I had nausea and constipation for the first 3 months and then it went away plus I’ve lost 70 lbs. I also work out for 30-40 minutes most days and feel great. To add I just turned 64.
I’d say go for it and give it a try.
i have dieted all my life and am now over 70. i have never been obese but like a venus di milo!!! i know what to do i just don’t have the willpower any more. after covid i faultered. is there any supplement or otc med to help with will power – it also has to be fairly safe. thank you
Thank you for the practical Costco list. Until recently, I’ve always been a bit rounder ever since the last baby (he turned 38 in Aug), then suddenly after a colon resection I ballooned up to the highest I’ve ever weighed. Turns out along with menopause I also have hypothyroidism. Dr put me on meds, weight gain stopped & I’ve dropped some weight but, the progress is super slow. Ordering the books & copied the Costco list. Now to build some better habits. Luckily, I never developed a “sweet tooth” so donuts & snacking is not a huge issue.
Your baby is 38! I’m just like you about my 20 yr olds!! (It makes me weird, I know, but when my boys were brand-new drivers, I made a bumper sticker that said: “My precious baby is a new driver, please be nice.”
I promise, I’m not a helicopter-mom, but I have my moments.
Great move re: the habit books. I say that I keep my book collection in the library meaning that I rarely buy a book, but these two are worth it.
Also, I want to encourage you to check out my book. I used the habit books extensively as I while writing. Their books speak to habits and how to best develop habits for your success, but my book is how to use habits for women over 30 who want to lose weight.
Wendy
http://www.theIn
You write about all the right things and it explains exactly why your weight stays stable. It’s not will power or crushing diets that do it. In my program 6 weeks to diet freedom I dedicate a whole module to the topic of habit because like you, I know it’s not just about food. It’s about habits. Wishing you a Happy New Year and continued success and good health.
Thank you, Peg! Have you read these two habit books?
Wendy