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About Jane Duncan Rogers

Jane Duncan Rogers runs Before I Go Solutions, a not-for-profit that helps people design and create their end-of-life plans. An award-winning coach, she is the author of Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth, and the forthcoming book, Before I Go: The Essential Guide to Creating A Good End of Life Plan. Take her short quiz How Prepared Are You? and find out what you need to do to have the best end-of-life possible. Please visit https://beforeigosolutions.com
Latest Posts | By Jane Duncan Rogers
3 Pointers on How to Cope with Planning for a Good Death
6 days ago

3 Pointers on How to Cope with Planning for a Good Death

This is a photo I took of my parents’ joint funeral.

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Unbelievably, they both died in the same week, in their sleep, aged 86 and 84. My dad had had a stroke a year previously and hadn’t been doing too well, so it wasn’t entirely unexpected when I got a phone call one morning saying he hadn’t woken up. Read More

The Empty Chair: The One Essential Way for the Bereaved to Cope Better with That First Christmas
1 month ago

The Empty Chair: The One Essential Way for the Bereaved to Cope Better with That First Christmas

You imagine ahead to your traditional dinner: you know what you will be eating, you know who you will be celebrating with, you know where you will be – but suddenly your heart drops. This year there will be an empty chair round that table. Read More

5 Tips for Dealing with Grief Over Christmas
1 month ago

5 Tips for Dealing with Grief Over Christmas

Christmas, much like the other holidays, is a time when people look forward to the comforting nature of tradition, but when a death happens, the tradition is disrupted. Read More

The Unintended Consequences of Leaving Without a Will
4 months ago

The Unintended Consequences of Leaving Without a Will

We all know that writing a will is a good idea, but many of us never find the time to get around to it. “I’m too young. I don’t have anything to leave behind. I’ll set my affairs in order.” These are all statements many of us have used to procrastinate creating a will, or refute the idea altogether. Read More

14 Easy Ways to Keep Funeral Costs Down
6 months ago

14 Easy Ways to Keep Funeral Costs Down

“I don’t want to pay that amount of money for something I don’t want!”

I screamed these words to the funeral director who sat opposite me on the sofa two days after my husband had died. Read More

3 Tips on How to Talk with Someone Who Is Dying
7 months ago

3 Tips on How to Talk with Someone Who Is Dying

Sylvia was becoming more and more frail. It was clear that, though in good spirits, her body was nearing the end of life. She kept having visits to the hospital and had recently had a fall which had precipitated one of these. Read More

3 Tips for Helping Your Dying Loved One Make End-of-Life Plans
8 months ago

3 Tips for Helping Your Dying Loved One Make End-of-Life Plans

Maria and Arthur are coming towards the end of their lives. They are a couple I know, who raised four children, had vibrant and dynamic careers at the prime of their lives, lived in different countries and made a very positive and significant contribution to the world in various ways. Read More

9 Unique Ways to Remember Your Loved Ones
8 months ago

9 Unique Ways to Remember Your Loved Ones

Walking in a beautiful memorial park in Coventry, England, dedicated to the huge numbers of men killed in both World Wars, I felt the peace in the air. Read More

3 Ways to Deal with the “If Only’s” and “What If’s” After 60
9 months ago

3 Ways to Deal with the “If Only’s” and “What If’s” After 60

Sylvia was distraught. “If only I had noticed the extent to which he was in pain! I mean, if I had noticed, then I could have insisted he went to the doctor earlier. What if I had done that? If only I had! He might still be alive and with me today.” Read More

3 Unusual Ways to State Your Feelings for Your Partner After 60
10 months ago

3 Unusual Ways to State Your Feelings for Your Partner After 60

One of the top 5 regrets of the dying is “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.” Given that we never know when our life is going to come to an end, it’s a really good idea to not only express our feelings, but by doing that, keep our relationships up to date and healthy. Read More