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Are You Stuck in a Rut in Your 60s? Here’s How to Get Out

By Paula Harer February 21, 2021 Mindset

If you are stuck, it is time to get unstuck. Nothing ages a woman, in my opinion, more than being stuck in a rut, no matter what part of her life we are talking about.

And we all do it. We all get caught in the trap of not staying current, whether it is with pop culture or our home’s decor or movies or the way we wear our hair and our clothes.

We all do it. I do it. But it is time to change that. How often do you walk into a friend’s home and think, “Wow, this place hasn’t been updated since before Y2K”? If you don’t know what that is, then this article may not be for you!

Or when was the last time you put on an old sweater and had to decide whether to leave the shoulder pads in or take them out? The answer is out, by the way, if you were old enough to wear them the last time they were in.

I have been noticing a tendency to hold on to way too many things that I have had since I got married in 1985. They really don’t hold much sentimental value for me any longer since ‘married’ is not my current status.

Am I Trying Too Hard?

I know what you’re thinking: “I don’t want to look like I am trying too hard to stay young. I am not fooling anyone about my age.” It is not about trying to pass for an age that came and went a long time ago.

It is about remaining current, not living in the past. Staying interested in what is happening in the world around you and finding ways to bring today into your life makes a difference in how others see you and in how you feel about yourself.

My children span from ages 26 to 31, and I like some of their favorite music and TV shows. Not all, but some. We like the same current movies – not all, but some.

It gives us something to talk about when the awards nights come around. It’s fun to go to a concert with them once in a while. I love it and it connects me to them. It makes me feel like I am part of this world, not on the tail end of life.

How Tech Savvy Are You?

My daughter-in-law always asks me if I follow certain interior designers on Instagram, so I look them up and follow them. Guess what? I am starting to feel like I need to make some changes in my apartment.

It needs to be refreshed and that doesn’t have to do with spending a lot of money. It has to do with maybe changing out a rug and adding a little brightness. Nothing earth-shattering, just a little spruce up that makes me feel like I am not living in Granny’s house.

Is Your Fashion Sense Up-to-Date?

I am very stuck in fashion. I wear black almost always! Sometimes I go wild and wear gray, beige or beigeish gray. That probably won’t change.

But, I can definitely buy a couple of pairs of shoes and a handbag or coat every season that updates the look. And how do I know if it is working? When my daughter asks me if she can borrow my shoes! Bingo!

Aging Isn’t for Wimps

Listen, aging isn’t for wimps, we all know that. But I really believe that sometimes we can feel left out, or left behind – or unimportant. We are not unimportant, but we have to let others know that. We need to stay informed and relevant and current.

So, are you stuck? And if you are stuck, what are you going to do about it? How can you make some small changes to stay current? Please share your thoughts with the community.

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The Author

After a 30-year marriage crumbled, Paula Harer found herself single for the first time in 35 years. She felt like she had something to say about her experience, so started writing a blog called Starting Over at Sixty She addresses everything from loneliness and reinvention and offers ways to create a new outlook on life.

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