About Becki Cohn-Vargas

When I woke up at 8 am on my 68th birthday, I was confused to see that it was still dark. In a day unlike any other in my life, daylight never came. The sky remained dark with a purplish red hue. Cars drove with headlamps lit…
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What do you like about autumn? I have recently realized that autumn is one of the best seasons of the year. The weather is still warm… even as the cold begins to creep in.

The leaves change color. Near my house there are spectacular walnut trees that turn glorious colors of red, and yellow and gold. But, I am not here to talk about the trees… I am here to talk about our lives after 60. Read More

Funny thing. I have wanted to write this blog for several months and couldn’t seem to get started. No surprise, it is about facing something in ourselves, limitations that stop us from doing what we most want to do. The metaphor of a glass ceiling is quite apropos. Read More

When you hear the term “identity safety,” what do you think? In a casual conversation at the bank, I told a man that my dissertation was on the topic of identity safety. “Oh” he replied “I work on that too, I am in the security industry, fighting identity theft.” Read More

Not so long ago, my husband of 34 years and I both turned 64. We got cards for each other with the iconic Beatles song that said, “Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I’m sixty-four?” I could not help but reflect on how we both survived. Read More

I call grandparenting a gift because after years of raising a child, now you have another chance to experience the magic of a baby’s first smile, watching them rolling over, and experiencing all the various stages and steps…
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A couple of days ago I was at the computer when I heard a knock at the window. I looked out and saw it was my daughter, her partner, and my three month old grandson, Anteo, at the door surprising us. The three had driven up…
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I am not the only person I know in my sixties who had a bad work experience at the end of their career. One friend was in his hospital bed after cancer surgery when his boss told him he was being forced to retire. Another friend worked for years as a successful paramedic and was then given the worst shifts in attempts to squeeze him out. Read More

It is so easy to take things for granted – the ground under our feet, waking up in the morning to a new day and, far too often, our relationships. It is so easy to be critical or to notice what is missing or makes us crazy about our partner, parents, children, friends or coworkers. Read More

From my “virtual headquarters” at home in California, I’ve been in touch with friends around the world from: England, India, Nicaragua, Israel, Bulgaria, Switzerland, Germany, and across the US…
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