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10 Best Online Dating Tips from a Top Dating Consultant

By Andrea McGinty June 22, 2022 Dating

For the past 25+ years, I have coached clients on dating – in the old days (90s and early 2000s) with matchmaking and in the 2010s and 2020s with online dating. Sometimes it’s hard to remember that there are over 100 million singles in the US alone. But every week I see someone fall in love – and that makes me feel so happy.

So here we go with the tips:

#1: An Energetic Dating Profile

This is a breezy, fun to read profile. Energetic? Yes, you can read energy crackling on a page! My best example is Men’s Health Magazine (yes, I’m female and I read it!). They understand their audience and write in short bursts and blurbs. This captivates a weary reader and gives info in a fast, almost bullet-pointed fashion. Write an exciting dating profile, caution to the wind!

#2: Pick the Right Dating Site/App

If you do not, success may be elusive. Just because your best friend in NYC used Coffee Meets Bagel to meet her boyfriend, does not mean the same app will work for you in Dallas. Do your research on websites/apps specific to your area.

If a couple of local friends successfully met their partners online (key word here is successfully, not your friends who are crucifying online dating), yes, definitely ask them which site they used!

#3: Be Unique in Using Prompts

Online dating apps that don’t use longer profiles only give you the opportunity to share about yourself in under 100 or 250 characters by asking a prompt question. Be mindful with your words and also note that full sentences are not a necessity here.

Bonus tip: Don’t pick prompts like “For fun I like to….” You know why people pick this one? It’s the first one on the list of 20-30 prompts, and the answer is usually something boring, such as “Travel and Family.” Do you think this response reveals anything about you? Nope.

How about choosing the “If I could teleport anywhere this weekend…” prompt? Now, singles rarely use this one as it’s (yes, you guessed) toward the bottom of the list. But the people who answer generally have fun and intriguing responses – they put some thought into this one!

#4: Answer Quickly!

Let’s say it’s a Saturday night. You are online, perusing potential dates, and a message pops up for you. Maybe it’s someone you had “liked” or just a random person who had liked you. Answer right away! No, you don’t have to wait 3 hours or 3 days – most dating sites and apps show when you are online which in this case is a good thing. Now you can get a conversation going and not waste precious time.

#5: Think/Speak Positively

This will exude sexy confidence on the date.

#6: One Text, Two Text, Three Text… No More

This felt like the beginning of a Dr Seuss! Now that you have messaged back and forth two times via the app/site, it’s time to take it to a real phone call. How? Very simply, ask. “Would you like to phone chat/facetime for 10 minutes to see if we would like to meet in person”?

This effectively does two things: sets a boundary for 10 minutes (Who needs to talk for an hour – do that on the date!) and basically tells the other person the reason: to set up a date if you like each other.

Believe me, as a dating coach with over 30,000 clients under my belt, it works. Who wants a text buddy? No one. Who wants real in person dates? You do – and if they respond with “Oh, let’s text to get to know each other better,” block and delete them. Statistically, this date is never going to happen.

#7: Terrific, Real Photos from Last 6-12 Months

I vet and help select every one of my clients’ photos. Two years ago, with Covid, I gave my clients more latitude with photos. (Yes, I know Covid is still a part of our lives, but most of us have learned how to live with it and still go about their daily business… and dating!)

Always smile – the Victoria Beckham/Anna Wintour look won’t work with online dating. I have a client who plays piano for a well-known symphony – she gets so many comments on her photo in a black dress and pearls at a grand piano.

But then again, she’s an avid hiker – her ice pick climbing-a-glacier-photo in Alaska from a few weeks ago is also real – and well-liked by men. Neither of these two photos are posed, btw. All natural. Oh, and the magic number of photos to post is somewhere between five and eight.

#8: People to Avoid Online

Quickly delete any profile with no photos or just one photo. If the profile is not filled out and lists only 2-3 interests, it’s probably a bot, that is, not a real person.

You don’t have time to wonder. Online dating is a game best played quickly, so don’t hesitate to delete. Even if his one photo is gorgeous. Anyone who shows a negative mindset in their profile or has written a novella (multiple paragraphs about their last relationship) is a big red flag.

#9: Be Honest

That means, share your true age and photos that represent what you look like now. The goal here is to meet in person, and you don’t want to be duped on a date when he shows up looking 10 years older and 20 pounds heavier than his so called recent photos.

Be proud of your age and life experience. And, if you think you look 10 years younger than your true age (something I hear consistently from clients of both sexes), keep it to yourself. Let your date come to that lovely conclusion.

#10: Conversations on the First Date

This is not a marriage audition! Keep it light and breezy. Discuss current events, latest films out, travel plans. If they ask, “How’s online dating going?” there is only one answer you are allowed to share: “Great, so much fun meeting different people!”

Online dating can really be so much fun when taken in the right spirit. Yes, you may want a long-term relationship (over 60% of my clients are successful in this regard) but you have to start by dating. One date turns into two… and before you know it, you are in a relationship. Chin up. There’s a lid for every pot!

Have you looked at too many singles’ profiles? What captivates you in a profile? Looking at your own dating profile, do you think it’s interesting or needs improvement? What would you improve right away?

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m hochwa

CERTAINLY interesting promises, Are you just blogging or monetizing your ideas? I was a corporate headhunter and matchmaker did great until retired. In dating late 60’s to mid 70’s constantly surprised to hear, there are no good men out there. I think there is a disconnect of expectations versus reality. I’m not Ken anymore and the women I date aren’t Barbie either.we all used to be, that seems to be a disconnect point. Last night 5/5/23 was out with my best friend since my wife died 2018 an older guy than me I am 73 tried to impress my friend D he was out with his friend Kwho had to be much younger and he sat there like a lump, in the bar on the other hand Mr 6 Porches T who raced his cars was flirting up a storm with my friend D in the restaurant he sat and watched me flirt with his neighbor K who was mildly interested gave me her card. Point is at least having realistic expectations served me well. No way I will get lucky twice with a former fashion model & portrait artist wife. Of course my friend D i
Has the same background as my foreign born wife had, so being generous and genuine has helped me go shopping again.

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Andrea McGinty is the founder of It’s Just Lunch dating service. She sold it and founded so she could help singles navigating online dating. In the 2020s, she knows the best way to meet people is through online dating using a professional coach and specializes in singles in their 50s-70s!

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