For most of us – when we were younger – the holidays produced excited squeals and bright smiles and eyes shining with wide-eyed wonder. We marked off the days on the calendar, counting the sleeps until Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or whatever big day we couldn’t wait to arrive.
But, for many reasons, the holiday season can be difficult as we get older. A partner or parent or sibling is no longer with us. Our kids are grown and gone, live far away, or celebrate with their spouse’s family. Many of us struggle with health issues and don’t feel like getting out and dealing with the snow, crowds, and traffic.
We are alone.
And sometimes – even if we aren’t alone – we lose our sparkle and zest for decking the halls, stuffing stockings, and making all those memories happen. What we once enjoyed – and looked forward to – now seems overwhelming and exhausting. The holidays are a lot of work.
“I’m not putting up a tree this year,” one friend announced.
“I’ll be glad to get back into a normal routine after the holidays,” another woman said.
“I’m so done with Christmas,” I heard another say.
We’ve made the month of December such a big deal for decades – stressing ourselves to the breaking point with gifts and baking and cards and social obligations – that the holidays have lost their magic. Regardless of whether we are alone, or not.
So! Here are a few ideas for what you might do to enjoy – or survive! – December when you’d rather fast-forward and flip the calendar to January. Some activities you can do by yourself, when you really don’t feel like doing much at all…
Hopefully, you will think of other things to add to this list. As I have learned, once you take the first tiny step, it is easier to continue. One thing will lead to another and another and another…
I hope you find something on this list that fills your heart this holiday season.
Does the holiday season still excite you? Do you look forward to the holidays? What new or festive things might you do this year?
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Thank you for this article and the ideas for possibly making this a good holiday season. The article captured how I am feeling this year. Missing family traditions and having a hard time pumping it up for the grandchildren. I appreciate the ideas and will try a few. Nice to know I am not alone in feeling this way.
Correction…18 yo son…not 28..lol.
All excellent ideas…even if a person picked only one or two. I’m 78 years young this past November so I’ve seen and decorated for a lot of Christmases. My 39 yo daughter passed in August 2022, leaving behind her now 28 yo son who still lives with me
Christmas was her favorite holiday. We always went way out. So, we still try to do our best in her honor. Her birthday is December 7, so we still buy her big birthday chocolate chip cookie and celebrate her heavenly birthdays. One new thing I have tried this season is being a Salvation Army bell ringer at our local grocery store. It’s amazing how generous people have been…and…seeing people I havent seen in years has made me really happy.
Wear all the glitter and sequence clothes i have all month long!
For any occasion, day or night!
Might as well look festive!
I love it! Happy holidays to you!
Super ideas especially for those of us who will be on our own. Fortunately I will be flying to the other side of the world to spend it with my son again since my daughter chose to estrange from us taking my grandkids with her. The first few years were very hard but now I’m excited to be away in another country which really celebrates the season beautifully! Last year we even managed to get a real tree! Wishing all a very happy holiday season!