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How Easy Is It to Like, Unlike, and Dislike on Facebook and in Real Life?

By Noelle Nelson March 08, 2020 Lifestyle

Facebook comes with both its upsides and downsides, as we’ve all discovered over the past decade. Some of the obvious upsides are how Facebook helps us stay connected and involved with friends and family who may not live nearby, and with those we don’t know personally, but whose lives intrigue us.

Fair enough.

But also, friends have sworn off Facebook because of its addictive quality. You’re happily perusing the lives of the rich and famous, or not so famous, and you look up at the clock only to discover two hours have gone by when you only meant to distract yourself for a few minutes.

Like and Unlike

Facebook also introduced a relatively simple concept with far-reaching implications that can be used for our good outside the parameters of Facebook. I refer to the “like” and “unlike” feature.

It’s easy: you “like” something or someone whose Facebook entries please you; you “unlike” something or someone whose entries don’t please you. Nothing to it. One click, you’re done.

Oh, if we could only keep it that straightforward in life. If you like someone or something, you put your effort and energy in that direction. If you don’t like something, you hit a mental “unlike” and withdraw your attention, your energy, and effort.

But that’s not what we do. We’ve invented a third button: the “dislike” button. The dislike button means that not only do we not like that person or thing, we now invest vast quantities of time, attention, effort, and energy disliking whatever it is we dislike.

We don’t simply hit “unlike” and move on (which would be far better for us on every level – mental, physical, and emotional – we dwell on our dislike. We can’t let it go.

What’s worse, harboring negativity depresses our immune systems. It can disrupt the smooth functioning of our heart and digestive systems.

In other words, always hitting the dislike button instead of discarding our negative thoughts can create health hazards for us, not the least of which is shortening our life span – a truly undesirable consequence.

Take, for example, Betty Jean McHugh, who, at 90, ran the Honolulu Marathon, breaking the previous record set in the Women’s 90-age category by two hours. Betty Jean hits the “like” button on her daily runs in Vancouver, Canada, whether she feels like running or not.

It’s been that way since she began running in her 50s. Betty Jean doesn’t seem to have a “dislike” button, which has enabled her to stay active and enjoy life. It shows when it comes to other runners, whom she supports and encourages.

Learning to Let Go

Hitting the “dislike” button doesn’t make things better. Dwelling on the thing or person that upset you doesn’t make the upset magically disappear. Most likely, the “disliked” person or situation isn’t suffering from your “dislike.”

If it’s a person, they probably aren’t investing so much as a moment of attention your way. They’ve gone on with their lives, thank you very much. So, what are you doing, holding on to your unhappiness?

Learn the value of the “unlike” button. Click on it and let whatever the misery was go. Or, if it’s appropriate, figure out what you can do differently in the future so that you don’t encounter that same unwanted situation/person again.

Whatever path you choose, to simply let go or problem-solve, let your intention be the same: “unlike” and be done. “Dislike” no more. Instead, expend your valuable, priceless, important attention and energy to bring you happiness.

What “thing” do you know you must “unlike” but can’t? What example can you give in which you let go of something and immediately felt better? Please share with our community and let’s have a conversation!

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The Author

Dr. Noelle Nelson is a psychologist, consultant and speaker. She is passionate about personal growth and happiness. She’s authored over a dozen books including The Longevity Secret: How to Live Happy, Healthy & Vibrant Into Your 70s, 80s, 90s and Beyond and Phoenix Rising: Surviving Catastrophic Loss: Fires, Floods, Hurricanes and Tornadoes. Visit her at

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