Ever notice how in the summer you feel like a wellness rock star? You’re walking after dinner because the sun’s still out. You’re eating peaches that drip down your chin, tossing together big salads that actually taste good, and thinking, “Finally. I’ve cracked the code.”
And then – bam! – it’s October.
The sun sets at 5:30. The thought of eating salad feels like punishment, and all you want is bread, cheese, and something warm in a bowl. Suddenly, those “healthy habits” you were so proud of don’t just slip… they take a nosedive.
Here’s the thing: this isn’t about willpower, laziness, or being “bad at sticking with things.” This is changing habits in midlife colliding with the reality of motivation and seasons. Your body, your energy, even your cravings – they’re seasonal.
The real problem is that no one ever taught us to expect it. So when the shift happens, we panic, blame ourselves, and quit.
But if you start to notice the cyclical pattern of your health – the way your habits rise and fall with the weather – you can plan for it. And when you plan for it, suddenly, it’s not a mystery anymore. You’re not “failing.” You’re just experiencing the same seasonal dip you can now predict – and outsmart.
Want a deeper dive? Listen to my podcast Episode 238: Changing Habits and Changing Seasons.
When I first moved from Austin to Mexico, I completely lost track of time. Not metaphorically – literally. In December, I was still wearing shorts. In January, I was eating watermelon. The only socks I owned were for exercising.
It sounds dreamy (and it is), but it also messed with me. Because back in Austin, my seasonal health habits kept me on track without me realizing it. Summer was for big salads and grilled chicken. When the air turned crisp, I craved chili, roasted veggies, and casseroles that fogged up the kitchen windows.
It wasn’t just food, either. In warm months, I walked everywhere, almost without thinking. In colder months, I hibernated indoors, curled up with a blanket and Netflix. My energy shifted. My sleep shifted. Even my mood shifted.
And here’s what clicked: my habits weren’t random or fragile – they were seasonal changes in appetite, energy, and behavior.
If you’re a woman in midlife, you already know your body has its own rhythms. Hormones, energy, cravings, even sleep… they ebb and flow. Yet we’re told to treat every day, every season, like it should feel the same.
But if you find that there are times when you’re motivated and others when you’re not, that’s totally normal. You’re not failing. You’re human. And your health – especially midlife women’s health – is meant to bend and flex with the seasons.
Here’s the trap most of us fall into: when things are going well, we assume it’ll always feel that way. If I’m motivated today, I think tomorrow-me will wake up equally jazzed to hit the gym, eat the salad, and skip the wine. But after observing my own behavior for a few years now, tomorrow-me usually wants mashed potatoes and Netflix.
That dip in energy – that craving for carbs when the air turns cold – it’s not proof you’re unable to keep the momentum going. It’s just resistance showing up right on schedule.
This is where the Think–Feel–Act cycle matters. Every action (or inaction) starts with a thought. You think, “It’s too cold to walk,” which makes you feel tired or blah. And so – you act. You skip the walk and eat crackers out of the sleeve. Not because you lack discipline, but because the thought created the feeling, which drove the action.
The good news is that resistance is predictable. The thought will show up. The feeling will show up. That doesn’t mean you’ve failed – it means you’re normal.
This is why habit change without willpower is possible. You don’t need to white-knuckle it. You need to expect the dip. When you plan for it, those “I don’t feel like it” moments stop being landmines. They’re just mile markers on the road.
And suddenly, you start to see why habits don’t stick – and how to build ones that actually can. Even when emotional eating and seasons collide.
One of my clients in the Midwest is a die-hard runner. In the summer, she’s outside logging long miles, sun on her shoulders, trails under her feet. But when winter hits? Snow, ice, and wind turn up that make your eyes water just walking to the car.
Old her would’ve felt like a failure when those long runs disappeared. New her? She pivots. She swaps outdoor runs for treadmill sprints and adds hot yoga classes to stay warm and flexible. Same routine, different execution. That’s not weakness. That’s resilience and flexibility.
The same goes for food. Healthy eating by season isn’t about deprivation – it’s about listening to your body. No one really wants a cold salad when it’s 30 degrees and sleeting. In winter, soups, stews, and roasted vegetables are nourishing and comforting. In summer, it’s fresh fruit, lighter meals, and big bowls of greens. When you plan meals by the weather, you’re not “falling off track” – you’re respecting what your body actually needs.
This is what I mean by healthy routines. It’s not about rigid rules. It’s about building flexibility and adaptability that flex with real life. When you adapt, you stay consistent. And when you stay consistent, you get results.
Because true exercise for midlife women isn’t about punishing yourself into shape. And real holistic midlife health isn’t about pretending your energy, appetite, or motivation will never change. It’s about expecting the shifts, and planning for them – so you stop quitting when the seasons shift and do what seasons do.
So how do you actually keep your habits going when the seasons (and your cravings) flip on you? Here are a few strategies that work for me and my clients:
Create folders (digital or old-school binder – I used to use colored index cards) for summer, spring, fall, and winter meals. That way, when July hits, you’re not staring at your fridge wondering, What the heck did I eat last year when it was hot? And when it’s October, you won’t be forcing yourself to chug down a green smoothie when your body’s screaming for warm.
If your only workout plan is “walk outside,” you’re one rainstorm away from quitting. Instead, set up flexible choices: yoga or bodyweight circuits at home, treadmill or rowing machine indoors, walking or biking outdoors. Movement isn’t all-or-nothing – it’s a menu.
This is the big one. Don’t wait to be blindsided. Write it in your calendar: resistance will show up in October, February, and sometimes Tuesday. If you plan for it, you can pivot instead of quit.
This is what maintaining healthy habits actually looks like. It’s not about perfection – it’s about adaptability, seasonal health habits, and building healthy routines that bend with life instead of snapping in half.
Preparation beats shame every single time.
You don’t struggle with consistency with your habits – they’re seasonal. Just like the weather shifts, so do your cravings, your energy, and your motivation. That doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’re human.
When you stop expecting yourself to be perfect every single day, and instead lean into healthy lifestyle changes that bend with real life, everything feels easier. Flexibility isn’t weakness – it’s the key to consistency.
Think of it this way: your health isn’t a summer fling. It’s a year-round relationship. And the more you plan for the ups and downs, the steadier and more peaceful it becomes. That’s what true holistic health in midlife looks like.
If you’d like simple tools to get started, grab my free 8 Basic Habits Guide. And if you want to go deeper, you can listen to Episode 238: Changing Habits and Changing Seasons for even more ways to make your habits stick – no matter the forecast.
Are your habits seasonal? Have you noticed a shift now that summer is getting closer to its natural end? What foods are you craving these days?
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I’m the opposite of this. I wilt in the heat and humidity of summer. In the fall, I feel energized by the cool, crisp weather.
Mary Jane, yes! that makes perfect sense. For some of us, summer feels like freedom, and for others it’s just hot, sticky exhaustion. I used to live in Texas & I remember those humid summers when even walking to the mailbox felt like a workout.
For you, it sounds like fall is when your energy really blooms, which just proves the point: our habits rise and fall with the seasons, but the “hard season” looks different depending on where we live. You might want to tuck this article away and bring it back out next June, when the heat starts to feel stifling again. It’ll be a reminder that nothing’s wrong with you, it’s just your body responding to the weather. 👌
Me too. The autumn is my happy time.
Mary Jane, yes! that makes perfect sense. For some of us, summer feels like freedom, and for others it’s just hot, sticky exhaustion. I remember those humid Texas summers when even walking to the mailbox felt like a workout.
For you, it sounds like fall is when your energy really blooms, which just proves the point: our habits rise and fall with the seasons, but the “hard season” looks different depending on where we live. You might want to tuck this article away and bring it back out next June, when the heat starts to feel stifling again. It’ll be a reminder that nothing’s wrong with you, it’s just your body responding to the weather.
Goes for me too. I avoid the heat as it saps my energy. Love the long evenings when it cools off. Very energized in the fall and milder west coast winter. The principles apply however. Now just to put them into practice!!😁
Thank you for this timely article! Yesterday I was down on myself for watching TV for too many hours and wondered what was wrong with me. Now I understand what’s going on.
Ann Mary, I’m so glad this resonated. Nothing’s “wrong” with you. our bodies and moods really do shift with the seasons, and sometimes that shows up as wanting more downtime, even if it looks like a TV marathon.
The hard part is we’ve been trained to see that as laziness instead of a signal that our energy is changing. Now that you recognize it, you can plan for it instead of beating yourself up. That little shift, from self-blame to self-understanding, makes all the difference.
“Movement isn’t all-or-nothing — it’s a menu.” What a simple, brilliant observation!
Yesterday, after five hours of (push) mowing up and down the slopes around our house in the country, I chastised myself for not spending any time in the gym.
That seems ridiculous now, but it was typical of my narrow thinking about exercising. I considered lawn mowing an activity, whereas exercise “should” be strictly defined. Thanks for hitting me up side the head with a two-by-four reality check.
Dolly, this made me smile!! and I’m so glad that line landed for you! Five hours of push mowing on slopes? That’s serious movement. Honestly, it’s probably better training than half the stuff that happens in a gym.
I think so many of us grew up with that narrow definition of “exercise” as if it only counted if we were sweating in Lycra under fluorescent lights. But movement is a menu, and the best choices are the ones that fit your life and body. So yes, mowing totally counts (and then some).
And hey! I’ll take the two-by-four reality check comment as a compliment. 😉
I can feel a change of mood as we are moving from summer to autumn. The past few weeks have been difficult as my husband is being treated for a knee injury that happened out walking in early July and this has limited what we have been able to do. Added to that his father died the same month necessitating 2 trips from our home to London which meant we couldn’t go on holiday. All in all it has left us a bit fed up.
I have booked myself on a 6 week meditation / CBT course in October as I think it will help my motivation levels.
Linda, thank you for sharing this, you’ve really had a heavy few months. Between your husband’s injury, the loss of his father, and having to cancel your holiday, it makes complete sense that you’d feel fed up. Big life events like that can pile on top of the seasonal shift and make it feel even harder to keep your spirits up.
I love that you’ve booked a meditation/CBT course for October, that sounds like such a nourishing step to help steady your mood and motivation. Sometimes it’s less about pushing ourselves to “bounce back” and more about gently giving ourselves tools and support while the season changes. You’re doing exactly that. Sending you both care as you move through this time.
I live in the south and the summers are hot nd humid…I love the winter months! So much more energy.
Oh Linda, yes — I totally get that. I used to live in Austin, and those 100-degree, sticky days just zapped me. For you it sounds like winter is the “easy season,” while summer is when your energy dips, which is exactly the point of this article: our habits follow the seasons we’re in, no matter which ones feel harder.
You might want to tuck this piece away and pull it back out come November or next spring, when the temps start climbing again and you feel yourself wanting to hibernate from the heat. It’ll be a good reminder that nothing’s wrong with you, it’s just the season shifting.