When you blaze a new path for yourself after 60, you are charting a course to where the life of your dreams lives.
How do you go about this in a way that is practical, accessible, and fun?
By changing your perspective of what you believe is possible for yourself.
In this fourth article of a five-part series for Sixty and Me readers, we’re going to focus on the third step of the 4 Steps to Blaze a New Path for Yourself After 60.
The road to becoming a trailblazer after 60 can get a little bumpy. To make it a smoother journey, you will want to recognize and release fixed beliefs and behaviors that disempower you.
Fixed beliefs are your internal perceptions about who you are, what is possible for you, and how things are supposed to work in the outer world.
This includes fixed beliefs such as:
Whatever your beliefs are in these and other important areas of your life, how are they serving you today?
For example, early on in life working long, hard hours to get ahead or sacrificing your fun and well-being to take care of other’s needs may have seemed sensible.
But is that true today?
If you still place other people’s needs and wants before your own, this can prevent you from exploring more of your own personal desires, wants, and needs after 60.
For instance, what if you desire to take more leisure time for yourself but don’t because you feel that is being unproductive and lazy? Or maybe you do take time for yourself but feel guilty about it because you feel you should be doing something for someone else.
If you can relate, but don’t take the time to challenge these fixed beliefs, you are building up a tolerance to being stressed.
This causes you to overlook the root cause of feeling physically and mentally exhausted. All of which leads to an unbalanced emotional state.
Fixed beliefs are often the unseen obstacles on your new path in life after 60.
That is why the third step in blazing a new path for yourself involves developing a growth mindset.
A simple way of developing a growth mindset is to shift from fixating on what you believe you have to be or do to realize your desires. Instead, take time to tap into your feelings and emotions as if your desires were already accomplished.
One effective way of doing this is using your childhood imagination to play with your desires through daydreaming.
This is about spending less time lamenting about what you don’t have, or focusing on what is not going well. This frees up your mind to focus on what lights you up.
When you engage in this shift of perception, do so with an open mind by not placing limits on how your desires unfold. For this reason, developing a growth mindset after 60 requires doing something most of us were told was unproductive and unrealistic.
Author Earl Nightingale wrote many years ago, “Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality.”
This is where daydreaming comes in.
Daydreaming nourishes your desires and dreams, while uplifting your emotional state. It is not a waste of time or some guilty pleasure. It is a necessity if you want to walk the path to where the life of your dreams lives.
How do you go about doing this?
Whether you call this meditating, daydreaming, or playtime with your imagination, the outcome is the same. You feel better about yourself, you are rejuvenated, relaxed, and much more open to receiving your desires than repelling them.
All of this might be a challenge at first.
But if you are to begin blazing a new path for yourself after 60, changing your perspective on what is possible is how you go from where you are to where the life of your dreams lives.
Join me in the video where I will share additional insights, along with guiding you through three journal prompts to help you integrate what you are learning.
Do you use daydreaming as a mindset reset tool? What kinds of things do you daydream about? Is it a different kind of life? A hobby? A fun activity? What is hindering your daydreaming?
Thank you for this article. In last year or so I have learned to do this well.
After divorcing my husband of 50 years, I have struggled with my urge to change things up. I seemed to be looking outward when I needed to look inward. This has led me to a crossroads with trepidation. I daydream about a life that is not my reality, instead moving into the stability of the life of a friend. To say this is conflicting is an understatement.
I found the golden cord
unbraided, holding by one strand
to our emerald precious land
I listened in the forest
took hold of me
I pressed my back against the tree
closed my eyes
and felt it carry me
through a gentle silver pulsating energy
I felt my limbs stretch out wide
disappear as I flowed continuously
all sense of self lost
as I blissfully became one with the tree
and drifted peacefully in the quantum
Should read “in the quantum sea”