As time goes on, we may find entertaining guests less attractive, even overwhelming. We may not have the energy or the inclination to prepare a full dinner party for a large group, nor the extra cash to foot the bill. But we still want to stay in touch and spend time with our dear friends.
A vital social life and time with those whose company we enjoy is important to maintain a healthy outlook. We need to stay active and engaged at this stage of life, and a well-planned potluck can offer a viable option.
We’ve all suffered through bad potlucks, dried out casseroles, and strained conversation. That’s not what we’re talking about here.
With a little inspiration and imagination, you can host a truly engaging evening that everyone can enjoy, without killing yourself in the kitchen. Here are some unique ideas on how to make your potluck more about the connection so everyone enjoys themselves, even the host.
The most important ingredient for a successful potluck is the people. It is best to keep your guest list fluid. Don’t invite the same 12 people to every party. Add new friends, mix it up, and seek out interesting characters to add spark and stimulating conversation.
Be sure to introduce everyone, circulate throughout the evening to be sure guests are mixing and meeting those they don’t already know.
Have some fun with wording and graphics, use quotes, quips, and images that convey the spirit of the evening and get everyone in the mood.
It’s always a great idea to set up a theme and invite your guests to play along. Such themes could be:
Shake up a batch of Martinis and ask your friends to bring the canapés. A canapé, by definition, according to Wikipedia, is “a type of hors d’œuvre, a small, prepared and usually decorative food, consisting of a small piece of bread (sometimes toasted), puff pastry, or a cracker topped with some savoury food, held in the fingers and often eaten in one bite.”
These delightful and often fancy offerings have fallen out of favor in recent years, replaced by more casual offerings. But there is something rather elegant about a tray of tiny, artfully decorated treats that can elevate your get together to a new level.
If you really want to get into the mood, encourage everyone to come decked out in the fashion of the era. A fedora, some fancy costume jewelry, or an old faux fur stole goes a long way toward setting the stage. Dim the lights, put on some Frank Sinatra, and see what happens.
Bake some russets and enlist your guests to provide creative toppings. Encourage them to reach beyond the typical butter, chives, and sour cream to ingredients that push the boundaries of what compliments the hearty but pale pallet of the humble potato, transforming it into a complete and delicious meal.
Invite each guest to bring a dish and a piece of music they would want to enjoy every day while marooned on a deserted island awaiting their rescue. During the evening, ask guests to play their music and present their dish, explaining why they selected each item.
This evening is all about introducing people to each other. Keep it simple, grill some steaks, and invite a small group of close friends. Ask them to invite a friend from outside your usual guest list and bring along a side dish.
You’ll expand your social circle and may even create an opportunity for some new friendships to blossom. Keep it casual, leave plenty of time for mingling before and after dinner. Set a large communal table with food passed family style so everyone can get to know one another throughout the evening.
Set the time for later in the evening, pop a bottle or two of bubbly wine and invite your guests to contribute a small sweet treat. This idea is especially fun around the new year or Valentine’s Day, when everyone is feeling a little indulgent anyway.
An intimate gathering can be made more romantic with a variety of glowing candles, some fancy plates, and linen napkins to embellish the setting for the delicious desserts.
A take-off from a children’s lesson about generosity, a gratitude soup evening is about appreciating what each guest brings to the night. The host prepares a large pot of stock and everyone brings something to enrich the soup.
Guests gather in the kitchen as the meal comes together, taking turns relating something for which they feel grateful. They can tell a story, recall a special memory, read a poem, or any number of other options. The point is to share in the spirit of gratitude for what we each contribute to life’s experiences.
Potlucks can be an enriching, interesting and enjoyable way to deepen connection and form friendships. All it takes is a little effort and a genuine desire to bring people together.
What great ideas do you have for bringing people together? Have you had some successful potlucks you’d like to share with all of us? Do you have other ideas on how to form meaningful connections? We’d love to hear from you!