Downsizing sounds wonderfully simple when you first start thinking about it.
The kids are grown. There are rooms you barely use. The yard seems to require more work every year. You look around and wonder why two people (or one!) are still heating, cooling, cleaning, repairing, and paying taxes on so much house.
So you start imagining something smaller.
Maybe it is a condo with no lawn to mow. Maybe it is a little house closer to town. Maybe you sell the expensive family home, move somewhere more affordable, and put the difference into savings or travel.
There are plenty of good reasons to downsize in retirement. But I think we sometimes focus so much on what we are giving up – square footage, maintenance, expenses – that we forget to ask what we need the new home to give us.
Before you put the house on the market, here are seven questions worth asking.
This is usually where the downsizing conversation begins.
Sell the larger house, buy something smaller, and lower your monthly expenses. In some cases, the savings can be substantial.
But smaller does not automatically mean cheaper.
A condo may have a sizable monthly association fee. Property taxes can be surprisingly high in a desirable walkable neighborhood. Homeowners insurance may cost more in an area exposed to hurricanes, flooding, or wildfires. Moving expenses, closing costs, renovations, and new furniture can eat into the initial savings too.
Then there is the cost of the move itself. If downsizing also means relocating to another state or region, your entire cost structure may change. Looking at more affordable places to retire can be useful, but housing price alone doesn’t tell you what your new life will cost.
Before deciding how much money you will free up, compare the expenses you actually have now with the expenses you would actually have in the new home.
Not just the mortgage.
Everything.
A house is more than a collection of rooms.
Maybe yours is where everyone gathers for Thanksgiving. Perhaps the grandchildren sleep over. You may have a garden you love, neighbors you have known for 20 years, a garage full of tools, or a porch where you drink your coffee every morning.
None of those things means you should stay.
But they belong in the decision.
I think this is especially important when downsizing is framed entirely as a financial move. Saving money can be valuable, but retirement is also about how you want to live.
If Sunday dinner with the family matters to you, will the new place have room for everyone?
If gardening is one of the things you finally have time to enjoy, will moving to a condo actually make you happier?
Sometimes we discover that the “extra” space was not quite as unnecessary as we thought.
This is one of the most interesting tradeoffs in retirement.
You might move from a 2,500-square-foot suburban house to a 1,300-square-foot townhouse and end up with a life that feels bigger rather than smaller.
Why?
Because now you can walk to dinner.
The library is five minutes away. Your doctor is nearby. There is a coffee shop around the corner. You can meet a friend without turning it into an afternoon of driving.
When comparing potential retirement locations, I would pay as much attention to what surrounds the home as to the home itself.
A smaller house in the right location can give you easier access to the things you actually want to do.
That may be a much better trade than simply finding the cheapest small house available.
Most of us choose a home based on the person we are today.
That makes sense. But retirement is unusual because you may be choosing a home you hope to remain in for 15, 20, or even 30 years.
Look at the new place with that in mind.
You do not need to buy a home that feels like it was designed for an 85-year-old when you are a healthy 65-year-old. That would miss the point.
You are simply looking for flexibility.
The best retirement home may be one that works beautifully now without becoming a problem later.
Downsizing often looks much easier on a real estate listing than it does when you begin opening closets. You may be surprised by how much of your house you actually use for storage.
Holiday decorations. Family photographs. Tools. Luggage. Extra bedding. Kitchen equipment. Hobby supplies. Furniture inherited from parents. Boxes belonging to adult children who somehow moved out without taking the boxes.
Then there are guests.
If you move to a two-bedroom condo and one bedroom becomes an office, where will your children or grandchildren stay?
There is no right answer. Perhaps you would rather pay for a nearby hotel twice a year than maintain an extra bedroom 365 days a year. That can be a perfectly sensible trade.
But decide that before you move.
Otherwise, the smaller home can begin feeling crowded remarkably quickly.
A downsizing move sometimes becomes a relocation move. Once you decide to sell the family house, it can feel like the perfect moment to move somewhere warmer, cheaper, or more exciting.
That may be exactly the right decision. But put people on the list alongside taxes, weather, and housing prices.
We often think about these relationships emotionally, but they are practical too.
The older we get, the more valuable a good support network can become. Moving 1,000 miles away does not make those relationships disappear, but it changes how easily people can be part of everyday life.
A cheaper home can carry a hidden cost if you leave behind the people who made the old location work.
Before making a permanent move, you can conduct a surprisingly useful experiment without leaving your current house.
Pretend part of it no longer exists.
For a month, live mainly in the rooms you would have in the smaller home. Stop using the extra bedroom. See how much kitchen storage you really need. Pay attention to which possessions you use and which ones you simply store.
If you are considering a condo, rent one for a few weeks if possible.
If you are thinking about moving to a new town, spend enough time there to experience ordinary life rather than vacation life.
Go grocery shopping. Drive to the hospital. Sit in traffic. Walk around the neighborhood at night. Find out what you would actually do on a Tuesday afternoon.
I am a big believer in giving major retirement decisions a test run whenever possible. The more expensive and difficult a decision is to reverse, the more valuable a little experimentation becomes.
There is a tendency to describe downsizing in terms of subtraction.
Less house. Less maintenance. Less stuff. Less yard. Lower expenses.
Those can all be wonderful things. But I think the better question is what you get in return. Maybe you get enough money out of the house to feel more financially secure. Maybe you get a neighborhood where you can walk instead of drive everywhere. Maybe you get freedom from a yard you never wanted to maintain. Maybe you get closer to your children. Maybe you get a home that will be easier to manage as you get older. Or perhaps you look at all of those tradeoffs and realize you are perfectly happy where you are.
That is useful information too.
The goal is not to live in the smallest home you can tolerate. It is to live in a home that fits the life you actually want.
And if that home happens to be smaller, simpler, and cheaper to maintain, all the better.
Have you downsized since retiring, or are you thinking about it? What would be hardest for you to give up about your current home? If you have already made the move, what surprised you most about living in a smaller space?
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We downsized back in 2018 and have never regretted a second. Our family home and garden was HUGE and had become a time and money pit. Our home ran us and not the other way around as it should be. We had always believed that living in a larger town would give us easier and better access to excellent medical facilities that we might need as we got older but the biggest reason of all was to ensure that we were easily accessible for our children to visit us in an emergency situation. One lives abroad and the other does not drive – being central to transport hubs made perfect sense. Anything to help them avoid the 4 hour long stress drives to visit BOTH sets of our own parents. We live in a much smaller but much, much more valuable property than previously. Our hospitals were tested in 2021 when I become unwell, I’m convinced that being able to walk to appointments and treatments really helped me to recover quickly. It has taken us a little while to find the perfect homes for all our (required) belongings but we have already done the “death cleaning” for our family and treasure every item we own. We are shorter on space but what a space and what a city! We take public transport to theatres and cinemas, walk to the pub and eat out as often as we like. Friends and relatives visit to enjoy the same atmosphere. Your article hits every point to be considered and we couldn’t agree more – think about YOUR needs and plan for the 360 days of the year when you DON’T need the massive dining table!!! And remember, no decision has to be forever – life changes….
Lesley, this is such a great real-world example of what I was trying to get at. You downsized the house but, in many ways, it sounds like you upsized your life — easier healthcare, better transportation, more things to do and easier access for your children. Your point about planning for the 360 days when you don’t need the massive dining table made me laugh, but it’s also very good advice. And I completely agree with your last point: we sometimes put so much pressure on retirement decisions because we think they have to be permanent. Thanks for sharing this.
Melodie, thank you for sharing this, and I’m very sorry about your husband. Your situation really illustrates why these decisions can’t be reduced to a checklist of costs and conveniences. The friends and life you’ve built in France have real value, particularly when you’ve just seen firsthand how that community responds when you need help. At the same time, I can certainly understand why your family worries from a distance. Perhaps the slow housing market is actually giving you something useful right now — time to figure out what you want without having to make another major decision quickly. I wish you all the best, whatever you eventually decide.
I’m so very sorry about your husband. That leaves a hole in your life like no other.
As far as your decisions, my advice or to Follow your heart. If you have friends there, love it there, feel like it’s home, feel safe, there’s your answer. Live for today. As far as tomorrow… Get a game plan over a cup of tea or coffee and then let it go.
As life changes down the road, re-evaluate. But don’t obsess or ruminate over the future or past, if you can train your mind to do that.
It’s your life. Do what you want to do.
The older we get the more often we appreciate the life we have left.
Love it, and live it with all you’ve got.
Best wishes to you!
Your points are all important and worth serious consideration. I’m 70 and we moved states 3 times in the last 12 yrs. I miss my old friends and the familiarity of my original surroundings. Our current location has no sales tax, but they get their money in other ways. I’m closer to my daughter and young grandson, the biggest bonus, but still 90 minutes away. I wish I’d had a better checklist to work from!
Joan, three interstate moves in 12 years gives you a perspective on this that most of us don’t have! Your comment about no sales tax is also a good reminder that there’s almost always more to the financial picture than the number that initially attracts us to a place. Being closer to your daughter and grandson sounds like a meaningful gain, but I can understand missing old friends and the familiarity that comes from really knowing a place. Your experience is exactly why I think looking beyond the usual “best places to retire” factors before moving is so important. Thanks for adding this perspective.
I’ve lived in my “starter home” for 40 years! It’s in dire need of uncluttering and many home improvements – but it’s paid off. I turn 65 next month and am trying to decide whether to fix the old or start fresh. Either option seems nearly impossible to conquer! This home does have a troublesome flight of stairs to and from the garage and laundry room. I’m considering a home of the same size but all on one level. Help!
Mary, I can understand why both choices feel overwhelming when you’ve been in the same home for 40 years. One thing that might help is separating the decision from the work involved in getting there. You don’t have to declutter, renovate and decide whether to move all at once. The stairs you mentioned are something I’d definitely include in the equation, though. A similar-sized home on one level could let you keep the amount of space you’re comfortable with while solving one of the things that may become harder over time. Good luck with the decision — and happy early birthday!
Thank you, Scott, for your thoughtful response. Great points!
I just moved in January to a condo that has 1/2 the space. Saying goodbye to things has been hard. I’m finally getting pictures and memories on the walls and it’s feeling more like a home. I’m glad I did it. No stairs to worry about and I’m closer to my grown children.
Judy, thanks for sharing this. I especially like your point about finally getting the pictures and memories on the walls and having it start to feel like home. I think that’s one of the parts of downsizing that’s easy to underestimate — you’re not just deciding what will fit, you’re creating a home again. Half the space, no stairs and closer to your children sounds like the move gave you quite a bit back in exchange for what you gave up. Glad to hear you’re happy you did it.