What do you do on a daily basis, with living a full life in mind? If you’re struggling to think of anything, that’s okay, you’re not alone.
Here’s the thing – you aren’t going to enjoy every minute of every day. Bad things will happen, whether it’s a car accident, a fall, illness, financial struggles or the loss of a loved one.
These things are just a part of life and don’t have to stop you from living your life to the fullest. There is also no need for a daily monumental achievement to tick that box.
If you’re trying to determine what it is that you really want from your life and what will help you live a full life, then ask yourself these questions. You can rely on your intuition to understand what you’re trying to tell yourself as you ponder the answers.
Right now, at this very moment – what do you want?
Empty your feelings onto a sheet of paper and review it later. It might not make a whole lot of sense initially – it’s meant to be free writing that will guide you. It isn’t about doing something because your brain is telling you to, it’s about relying on your intuition to lead you.
No one but you will read your words, so break out of your restrictions and really share what’s on your heart. Sometimes, when people do this exercise, they realize it has been a very, very long time since they were really honest with themselves.
Sometimes, they realize they have spent a lifetime living the life others had planned for them – be it family, spouse or children. It doesn’t have to always be that way.
Now is your time for freedom. Now is your time to be honest with yourself about what will make your heart sing.
Follow your intuition to sense where you are being led – wherever that may be. Emotions aren’t always wise, but your intuition is, so listen to your gut.
This will help you filter out some of the things you wrote as you allowed your words to flow onto the paper. It’s part of the process that will guide you to make sense of what you really want and need.
What do I mean by this? Can you tell the difference between feelings and instincts? As an example, you might feel scared or apprehensive about trying something new – taking a class or joining a group. But your wise intuiting is telling you to push past the fear and try something new.
Can you feel the difference?
Nothing is ever as you expect it to be. If you are truly following your purpose, it won’t matter whether it unfolds as you imagined – there’s a good chance that it will be even better.
It’s important to remember, though, that even when chasing your dreams, there will be bumps along the way. Life can never be perfect, but there is something about life’s imperfections that make it worth living.
Few of us look at life as we enter our later years and think, “This is exactly how I thought it would be.” Rather, most of us exclaim, “How the heck did this happen?”
You have a choice. You can choose to look at life as having been a disappointment.
Or, you can take a deep breath, realize it’s been a wild adventure, and give thanks for the experiences you’ve been allowed to have that have made you the wise, wonderful woman you have become.
Which one will you choose?
We all feel held back by assumptions and expectations at various points in our lives. We are comfortable in the box that we have created for ourselves, at least, that’s what we tell ourselves.
In truth, we’ve allowed ourselves to become trapped in a box held by a trap lid. What assumptions could be limiting you from making progress in life?
Do any of these resonate with you? Take some time to journal your responses to these statements. Can you recall where these limits came from?
For example, do you feel you have nothing to offer because you’ve been “just a mom” for a couple of decades? Being “just a mom” means you are a champion nurturer, probably incredibly organized and a master at encouraging others.
Don’t sell yourself short by minimizing what you’ve done. Rather, look at how it can be used and expressed in your future.
You’ve done a lot.
You have a lot to give.
The key to living a full life is finding out what really matters to you, determining what you want and going after it full force. Get a journal or a spiral notebook and spend some exploration time. You are digging in to all the wonder that is YOU!
Do you ever doubt your course in life at this stage? Have you ever imagined this is where you will be in your 60s? What did you image? What went wrong – and did it really? What can you do to reinvent yourself as a woman after 60? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.