Sometimes, we get in a rut when it comes to meeting men. We think Online Dating is the only way to go, but it’s not. It is one way but there are three others I want to share with you today so you can get out there and start meeting the types of men you’d enjoy having in your life.
You and your friend walk into a restaurant, and you see a nice looking man sitting by himself at the bar. You tell your friend he looks like your type, and she suggests you go up and say hi.
You think, “I can’t do that. He might reject me, and I would feel so silly having approached him.” You’re not alone if you get this feeling. The reason it happens is because we put value on a man who is good looking and is nicely dressed.
But here’s a big secret about that. Just because he looks good, it doesn’t mean he’s a quality man. Finding that out, means flirting and talking with him to see if he is worthy of you. Read that sentence again because it’s really important. Most of the time we turn ourselves inside out to prove we’re worthy of him.
Once you realize your true value, you’ll need places to meet men. Here are a couple of ideas to get you started.
Meetup is still a great way to meet new people who share the same interests as you. It’s totally free and a great way to meet men or make new girlfriends (who, by the way, may know a good man for you).
Outdoor bars and restaurants can get pretty lively filled with people who want to have fun. Take a friend so you don’t have to go alone. Great conversation starters are things like “What are you drinking that looks so amazing” or “What is that appetizer that smells so good?”
Major or minor league sporting events. Talk about a lot of men! Whew, you can just feel the testosterone in those stadiums.
Your Dating Fairy Godmothers are anyone and everyone you might know. Make a list and include friends, family, your hairdresser, your manicurist, a receptionist, a doctor you see or your colleagues at work.
Then put a monthly date on your calendar to ask if they know anyone single. The reason you want to ask over and over again is because people are involved in their own lives and need reminders about what’s happening in yours.
The good thing about a matchmaker is they will vet men before you meet them so you know you’ll be physically safe. The biggest complaint about matchmakers is that women feel the respective professional doesn’t have enough men in their data base who are over 60.
I’ve heard over and over again from women that they feel matchmakers just fix them up with a body. If you’d like to use a matchmaker, I’d Google them or ask friends if they’ve had success with one.
And there are lots of men younger and older online who want what you want, a companion to play, have fun and grow old with. Someone who has your back as you have theirs.
Now the problem with online dating. You have to vet them, and you can end up feeling like no one you’d like to meet even exists.
When I work with clients, we do a deep dive into the type of man they’ve always been attracted to in the past. Why? Because this is who you are most attracted to but if this type worked, you’d be with him.
Then we identify what it is they most want in a man from where they are today in their life. Most women actually subconsciously date for the same reasons they did in their 20s which was finding a baby daddy.
Today, your reasons for dating are totally different than they were back then so you want to identify why you want a relationship before you decide who you want it with. When I ask clients what tool got them the guy, I always hear – “My clear vision of the right man for me. I’d have never seen him without this vision, and I’d have gone back and dated my old type.”
When you’re looking for a man, get clear on the values you want to share, know your deal breakers (not honoring them is settling) and how you want to feel around a man. These will help you tremendously for finding the right man for you after 60.
And have a good profile and really great pictures. They make all the difference in who you’ll attract into your life.
Now that you have four ways to meet men, which one excites you the most? Choose at least two then take action to make this dream of finding love after 60 come true.
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