The 4 Best Ways to Meet Men This Summer
Sometimes, we get in a rut when it comes to meeting men. We think Online Dating is the only way to go, but it’s not. It is one way but there are three others I want to share with you today so you can get out there and start meeting the types of men you’d enjoy having in your life.
#1: Meeting Men in Real Life
You and your friend walk into a restaurant, and you see a nice looking man sitting by himself at the bar. You tell your friend he looks like your type, and she suggests you go up and say hi.
You think, “I can’t do that. He might reject me, and I would feel so silly having approached him.” You’re not alone if you get this feeling. The reason it happens is because we put value on a man who is good looking and is nicely dressed.
But here’s a big secret about that. Just because he looks good, it doesn’t mean he’s a quality man. Finding that out, means flirting and talking with him to see if he is worthy of you. Read that sentence again because it’s really important. Most of the time we turn ourselves inside out to prove we’re worthy of him.
Once you realize your true value, you’ll need places to meet men. Here are a couple of ideas to get you started.
Meetup.com
Meetup is still a great way to meet new people who share the same interests as you. It’s totally free and a great way to meet men or make new girlfriends (who, by the way, may know a good man for you).
Outdoor Places
Outdoor bars and restaurants can get pretty lively filled with people who want to have fun. Take a friend so you don’t have to go alone. Great conversation starters are things like “What are you drinking that looks so amazing” or “What is that appetizer that smells so good?”
Sports Events
Major or minor league sporting events. Talk about a lot of men! Whew, you can just feel the testosterone in those stadiums.
#2: Call on Your Dating Fairy Godmothers to Help You Out
Your Dating Fairy Godmothers are anyone and everyone you might know. Make a list and include friends, family, your hairdresser, your manicurist, a receptionist, a doctor you see or your colleagues at work.
Then put a monthly date on your calendar to ask if they know anyone single. The reason you want to ask over and over again is because people are involved in their own lives and need reminders about what’s happening in yours.
#3: Hire a Matchmaker
The good thing about a matchmaker is they will vet men before you meet them so you know you’ll be physically safe. The biggest complaint about matchmakers is that women feel the respective professional doesn’t have enough men in their data base who are over 60.
I’ve heard over and over again from women that they feel matchmakers just fix them up with a body. If you’d like to use a matchmaker, I’d Google them or ask friends if they’ve had success with one.
#4: Online Dating Is Still the Best Way to Meet the Most Single Men Over 60
And there are lots of men younger and older online who want what you want, a companion to play, have fun and grow old with. Someone who has your back as you have theirs.
Now the problem with online dating. You have to vet them, and you can end up feeling like no one you’d like to meet even exists.
When I work with clients, we do a deep dive into the type of man they’ve always been attracted to in the past. Why? Because this is who you are most attracted to but if this type worked, you’d be with him.
Then we identify what it is they most want in a man from where they are today in their life. Most women actually subconsciously date for the same reasons they did in their 20s which was finding a baby daddy.
Today, your reasons for dating are totally different than they were back then so you want to identify why you want a relationship before you decide who you want it with. When I ask clients what tool got them the guy, I always hear – “My clear vision of the right man for me. I’d have never seen him without this vision, and I’d have gone back and dated my old type.”
When you’re looking for a man, get clear on the values you want to share, know your deal breakers (not honoring them is settling) and how you want to feel around a man. These will help you tremendously for finding the right man for you after 60.
And have a good profile and really great pictures. They make all the difference in who you’ll attract into your life.
Now that you have four ways to meet men, which one excites you the most? Choose at least two then take action to make this dream of finding love after 60 come true.
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After 34 years with my husband & unexpectedly single again at 64 in this pandemic I took the leap & signed up for two different online dating sites! It has been just a few weeks but hit on by two definite scammers who quickly disappeared when I mentioned it. A few very desperate unfortunate guys and a few rare gems ic their profiles are to be believed! It is like people watching in a way and some very interesting profiles too! Sadly lots of desperate pathetic people looking for love in the last quarter of their lives!
I met my current SO on the http://www.blackpeoplemeet.com dating site. There were actually very few black men that lived in my area, and this one gentleman kept on sending me messages. I was “going through some things” at the time, and didn’t respond. I responded a few days before his membership expired, and learned that he was a disabled Vietnam Veteran who cared for his 40 year old intellectually disabled son. My first thought was, “that’s the kind of man I am seeking.” So we made a date to meet a local restaurant for a “light dinner”, and not only did we close the restaurant down, we talked until 3 am in the morning. That was in March of 2022, and we’ve been together for the last four months. And I hope we’re together forever.
I am 73 but look and feel 10 years younger. I have been on dating sites for 3 years, carefully screening and then, meeting men who I thought would be a good match for me. I have met, for coffee dates, over 40 men and none of them turned into a relationship.I am pretty, college educated, financially stable, and have a friendly personality. I am looking for a man with similar qualities. A lot of the men I have met have physical or psychological problems. Others were boring because they didn’t put much effort into our dates. I have almost given up on dating sites but I can’t find any other way that leads to meeting men. (I have tried meet ups, classes, the gym, etc. But no luck). I never had problems finding a boyfriend when I was younger, even in my 50’s. I guess the older you get, the harder it is to find that special person.
Headline caught my eye. I’m 61, Male, Widowed, American. I realize this is largely a woman’s audience here. But: relative to this post, the dating and meeting scene is brutal for anyone our age. Exposure to the right person is everything and we are mostly isolated and too young for the foolish night life. And right! You cannot get caught up on judging looks. We can’t paint the whole barn white with this next comment but: I think visually evaluating whether a person takes care of themselves or not is a very obvious first impression and quite clear. BTW – I would be absolutely thrilled with any woman strong enough to approach me in a restaurant! Bottom line… you have to take the chance when you have it. It goes both ways. Blessings to you all. Let’s talk. :) Mark.
I’m also widowed,about to be 61. Have to agree with everything you said….And so true,”You cannot get caught up on judging looks”….I learned this way back in the 1970’s.Yes the dating +meeting scene is brutal…Being a widow is brutal.
Yes,I agree. The dating+meeting scene is brutal for anyone our age.I’m about to be 61.But,being a widow is also brutal.
Hi, lm a man and having read uour Fb article, also find it difficult to meet the right lady…l dance jive, lm learning tango. I take interest in my appearance, lm quite chatty but get told my appearance of taking care of myself,puts people off, sadly over time, and as a counsellor lve realised l attract the narcasist and thats a course for disaster…lm 72, look 58, lm told..have never tried a date site…told lm attractive and have emotional intelligence…any advice for men
Definitely get on a dating site. Take some time writing your profile,and put up about five or six photos that tell a story about who you are and what you enjoy in life. Make a checklist for yourself to help you rule in High Quality Women and rule out narcissists (the sooner the better!). Don’t hesitate to date a new “type” of woman, and see where it goes. Good luck!
Jane