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Why Are Older People Considered Boring? Is It the Culture – or Is It the Truth?

By Cyn Meyer December 03, 2022 Mindset

Old people are boring – truth or myth?

While you can split hairs and say, “it depends on the individual,” it’s certainly a broadly accepted stereotype that old people lead boring lives.

Stuck in Our Habits

Why? Basically, humans tend to fall into a serious habit of doing the same thing repeatedly. You could even say that a part of us is designed to be boring.

Here’s what I mean. It’s a natural instinct for us to not spend our energy making conscious active decisions throughout the day. In fact, we make about 35,000 decisions per day on autopilot. They take place in our basal ganglia instead of the prefrontal cortex.

The reason is, we were built to reserve our energy for fight-or-flight mode to survive in the wild. What’s more, we’re designed to procrastinate to avoid any stressors in life.

The glaring problem? We’re not living out in the wild anymore (most of us anyway, particularly if you’re reading this article from your computer).

So, if our species is designed to reserve energy and procrastinate on those adventurous plans you dream about, imagine doing that for decades. Put another way, the longer you repeat your boring habits the more stuck you become in those habits.

And when you’re stuck in a habit of doing the same thing repeatedly (for decades), you’re more susceptible to other outcomes that make you even more boring.

That’s right. Like not having anything new or interesting to say.

Confined by Comfort

When you stay within the cozy walls for your comfort zone, you don’t have anything new to talk about. Your experiences and stories remain the same and you end up lacking something stimulating to add to a conversation.

Which leads to that classic stereotype of “old people repeat themselves.” Pretty boring on the receiving end, right?

What’s more is, your brain craves new experiences. To create new neural pathways (which you can do until the day you die), you need new experiences. Your neuroplasticity and cognitive health depend on it.

Another side effect of being stuck in rut is you become accustomed to your own opinions – and only your own opinions. You limit what your mind is exposed to, which is also another way to not have anything interesting to say. Who wants to hear your same opinion over and over again?

Boring Doesn’t Pertain ONLY to Older People

Not to worry, though. These characteristics aren’t applicable to all seniors, and are, largely, misconceptions spread by culture.

The truth is: You can be boring at any age.

In fact, a study by Airbnb claims that women reach a “peak boring” age at 35 (for men it’s 39). Supposedly, age 35 is when women are least likely to do things like stay out late on a weekday, try a new hobby, make a new friend, or book a spontaneous trip.

If you’re a woman in your 60s, and ready to make the most of your golden years, these activities are exactly what you should be doing if you want to live your ideal exciting and purposeful retirement lifestyle.

The problem? Here’s where culture comes in. Culture trains you to be more sedentary as you age and pushes you to fear the aging process altogether.

Take, for example, the sheer amount of TV seniors watch per week – a staggering 47 hours and 13 minutes for people aged 65+. Not to mention all the anti-aging messages broadcasted on TV.

Basically, culture trains you to stay boring – which also means further procrastinating on your biggest dreams and continuing to reserve your energy by living on autopilot.

Who Is Most Susceptible to Being Boring?

If you take a look at the root cause of boredom, professor John Eastwood and team conducted a study out of York University in Canada that revealed there are two very different personality types that suffer from boredom:

People Who Are Mentally Impulsive

The first group includes the mentally impulsive, those who are chronically under-stimulated and always looking for new experiences but don’t think the world is exciting enough.

People Who Are Afraid to Step Out of Their Comfort Zone

The second group consists of those who aren’t satisfied with being comfortable, yet they’re chronically bored because they’re too afraid to try something new.

For seniors, culture pushes you into the second category. But, there’s good news – you don’t have to stay in that category.

You Can Beat Boredom and Culture

Here’s what you can do: Simply get out of your comfort zone.

In other words, seek new experiences. Learn something new. Immerse yourself in new activities. Meet new people. Be open-minded.

There are so many benefits to creating new growth experiences for yourself, including:

  • It’s good for building neuroplasticity and maintaining your cognitive health.
  • It’s exciting and gets you out of a rut.
  • It increases your chance of meeting new people.
  • It’s good for your mental and emotional health.
  • You’re more likely to find something fulfilling and purposeful by challenging yourself.
  • You’re less judgmental.

The gist of it is: The good stuff – including not being boring – happens outside of your comfort zone. So, stop procrastinating and claim your place! You might just excite others in your social group to do the same.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What can you do (big or small) to step out of your comfort zone? What autopilot routine or habit can you break to create a growth experience for yourself? Please share your thoughts with our community!

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I just looked up television statistics by age. The source I found is https://www.statista.com/statistics/411775/average-daily-time-watching-tv-us-by-age/
According to this source, people 65 and older do watch the most television. It is about 30-32 hours a week. These figures are in line with the US Bureau of Labor Statistics. Please provide a link for your 47 hour a week figure or update your article.

Cyn Meyer

That was the original stat link resource and it looks like they updated their page in July (https://www.creditdonkey.com/television-statistics.html). I did find this stat that claims the average household has their TV on 6 hrs 47 mins per day (http://www.csun.edu/science/health/docs/tv&health.html), although yes the US Bureau of Labor Statistics is the number that makes the most sense to use.

Elise in NH

Interesting people are interested people. Find something, anything, any cause you care about — and volunteer. Whether you’re driving around picking up unused food from restaurants to deliver to homeless shelters or walking down the block to tutor kids in after-school math homework, you’ll be making a difference, getting outside your self and your own concerns, and making connections. You’ll be benefiting the community, but you’ll benefit yourself far more.


I can’t sit still! So, TV doesn’t do it for me. I’d rather be gardening, cooking, riding my bike, walking around the golf course, walking my dog, or reading. I greet anyone and everyone I come in contact with along the way. I’ve mellowed as I’ve gotten older but I hardly think I’m boring. I’m always looking for “what’s next”, another adventure, or another outing in nature with my women friends. On the other hand, my husband watches hours and hours (about 14 – 16 hours a day) of television. He’s fixated on the News and what’s up with Trump, (who he hates) and I find it all very boring. My husband is BORING!!!!!!!! I’ve lost respect and now he’s not well. God help me to have patience!

The Author

Founder of Second Wind Movement http://secondwindmovement.com, Cyn Meyer offers education + coaching to help seniors transition into amazing next chapters and age successfully in place. She helps them live out active, healthy, happy "retirement" years, so they can better evade depression, loneliness, Alzheimer's and nursing home occupancy.

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