I don’t know who first said that the brain is the most important sex organ, but, whoever they were, they were correct! In our 20s and 30s, it is easy to think of sex as an entirely physical process. Unfortunately, this focus on our external appearance can lead to poor relationship choices, low self-esteem and a lot of confusion.
Many woman in the Sixty and Me community have told me that their definition of sex and sexuality has expanded over the years. It’s not that sex after 60 is less important than at other ages… it’s just that it is often different.
Helen Mirren once said that sex in her 20s was “paranoid and empty,” but, that sex in her 70s is “great, just wonderful.”
One other fabulous actress who would probably agree with Mirren is Betty White. She said…
Now that I’m 91, as opposed to being 90, I’m much wiser. I’m much more aware and I’m much sexier.
Well, actually, in a strange way, we all should! No, I’m not saying that I am fascinated by what Helen Mirren or Betty White do in the bedroom. Far from it! I’m simply saying that, as public figures, they have the power to help change aging stereotypes.
Whether we admit it or not, many of us struggle with what is “normal” after 60. In movies, TV shows and books, society tells us that we should “age gracefully” and embrace invisibility.
We are told, both directly and subconsciously, that sex is a young-person’s game. Sex among older adults is almost never addressed in popular culture and, when it is, it is uses as a comic punch line.
The brilliance of Betty White’s quote is that is shows the absurdity of thinking that a year – or a decade for that matter – would change our basic human needs and emotional desires.
We can feel sexy at 90 because our brain is our most important sex organ. Our body, with all of its wonderful complexity is really “just along for the ride.”
No matter how old you are, your body is a wonderful gift. You deserve to feel sexy, even if your perspective on sex has shifted over the years.
Like Betty White, perhaps we can all learn to look at the aging process with a little humor and embrace all of the wonderful things that are happening to our aging bodies.
Let’s let go of society’s limited view of sex and sexuality. If the brain really is the most important sex organ, we are the sexiest women on the planet!
Do you agree that sexuality is an important aspect of life after 60? What do you think about Helen Mirren and Betty White’s comments on this topic? Please join the conversation!
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