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Confessions of a Woman Who Secretly Wears Hearing Aids

Not many people know it (and now everyone will), but I occasionally wear hearing aids. Not for everyday use, but for when I am in a crowded situation where people have to talk and listen to each other.

I got my hearing aids about two years before I retired, and I’ve been retired a little over six years now.

Why Hearing Aids?

I noticed that I struggled to hear everyone, especially in a meeting with 15 to 25 people sitting around a large table or in a noisy restaurant. It was imperative at the time that I hear the conversations in order to respond and do my job; but I was losing that ability.

Since then, I’ve learned that anyone older than 45 has a one in five chance of suffering some degree of hearing loss. That increases to one in three by the age of 65. By 75, it is one in two. These statistics come from the National Institute on Deafness and Other Communication Disorders.

At one point, I finally went to see an audiologist to have my hearing checked. She put me in a booth and asked if I could hear an entire range of frequencies. Finally, I was fitted for a pair of hearing aids, and had them ordered.

I learned that my hearing loss was in both ears, although my right one is worse than the left.

Two Types of Hearing Loss

Most hearing loss is sensorineural or caused by damage to the tiny hair cells that line our inner ears. These cells convert sound waves into electrical signals for our brains to decipher into meaningful sounds.

Aging plays an important role here, but so could exposure to loud noises. Other reasons can be medications, illnesses, and a family history of hearing loss.

My grandfather Gillespie lost his hearing as a child due to a childhood disease. All he could hear using hearing aids was vibrations. He used them and lip reading to understand us.

With this type of hearing loss, using aids can help by selectively amplifying sounds. My hearing loss falls in this category. I shot guns for most of my life – first hunting with my father, and later in my 20s as being a part of a Trap and Skeet League for competition.

We were encouraged to wear hearing protection, and required to do so during training and competition. But being young, immortal, and basically stupid, I ditched the requirement as soon as I was away from the referees. I shot a shotgun right handed, and so it is normal that my biggest hearing loss is in my right ear.

I also loved my rock and roll loud. And I think you get the point.

The other type of hearing loss is conductive. It occurs as a result of a physical blockage or malformation of the middle or outer ear. Something like impacted earwax or a fluid build-up from infection can block sound from reaching the inner ear. Most of the time this type of hearing loss is reversible.

Is Sensorineural Hearing Loss Reversible?

The answer is no. I found out that once the hair cells in my inner ear were dead, there was no bringing them back.

I received my hearing aids, fine-tuned to match my specific hearing loss. I did not pay, though, to have them synced wirelessly with my smartphone. They were expensive enough without this feature.

Mine is a mini-behind-the-ear model. It has a receiver in the ear canal. It attaches to the ear via a thin wire and an earmold or piece of soft material made to fit snugly in the ear and to channel sound. I find it comfortable and barely visible even with my short hair.

The only drawback is that wax build-up does occur on the earmold. I simply remove most of it with my fingers.

This type of hearing device works best with my problems for hearing higher frequencies. The earpiece allows some sound in, which is good because I do not need help hearing the lower frequencies. Thankfully, I must have not turned the bass up on my car radio.

Buying Hearing Aids

Most insurance companies do not cover hearing aids, although in the US, Medicare Advantage may cover them.

My aids came with a contract that allowed me to return them and get most of my money back if I was not satisfied. Inquire about economy hearing aids, and ask your provider to compare your performance on speech-in-noise tests using both a premium aid and an economy aid.

Also ask your provider to check if your health insurance policy will pay. Some people may even have a homeowner’s policy that will pay for hearing aids. Check yours just in case.

It’s a good idea to find out if your audiologist carries more than a few brands. It won’t hurt to ask for a lower-priced model. You can also ask for a price break by negotiating a lower price.

Costco offers free screenings at select locations, and their prices are competitive. Did you know that 16 percent of all Americans buy their hearing aids from Costco? Certain Costco stores have an on-site audiologist or hearing specialist.

See also: Best Invisible Hearing Aids

Buying aids online can help you save, too. I didn’t go this route, though, because I wondered how the adjustment phase would go. I also wondered if I would have to find a local hearing specialist to help me.

There are organizations that may offer help – governmental, state, or independent groups like the Lions Club.

How Often Do I Wear Mine?

Now that I’m retired, I don’t use my hearing aids as often, but they stay in my purse, waiting for when I do need them. Normally, I get them out in noisy restaurants or when a person’s voice is at a frequency that I can’t hear well.

I’ve gotten quick at inserting them. I do it publicly, and most people don’t notice; or if they do, they do not inquire.

I am also super careful about my hearing now. I don’t wear my hearing aids to concerts or to watch TV. For concerts, I wear good quality ear plugs. Guess what? Concert music is so loud, I can hear it just fine even with ear plugs. I also make sure I wear protection when I work with firearms, as I still do from time to time.

Here’s what I’ve noticed most about wearing my hearing aids. I get a lot of background noise that I’m not used to hearing. It’s amazing what sounds I pick up that I never noticed I had lost. With my type of hearing loss, it is the metallic sounds that I no longer hear well.

Also, if all the noise in a room is coming from one side, I only put a hearing aid in the other ear. I find that I can hear people better that way.

Most hearing aids cannot completely remove background noise and allow you to hear people selectively. I guess you can surmise that using hearing aids is different for everyone.

Love the Quietness of Growing Old

There’s actually a positive side to hearing loss. My own has created an atmosphere that is overall quieter. I have to admit that I’m more comfortable without my hearing aids.

Yet, when I’m having trouble understanding people, like the other day when I was at lunch with a table full of former lobbyists, I get them out and insert them in my ears. This way I can hear everyone just fine.

If you’re interested, there is a Hearing Aid Buying Guide that I found helpful. You can find it here.

Do you suffer from hearing loss? Do you wear hearing aids? If you do, please share any tips you’ve found to be helpful.

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The Author

Native Floridian Cindy Roe Littlejohn blogs at the Old Age Is Not For Sissies, where life is good and every day is an adventure. At 62 she is healthy, married, a mother to three, and grandmother of six. She is an author and writer, a tree farmer, and a retired lobbyist. She loves to travel on old trails, garden, do genealogy, spend time in the outdoors, and spend time with her family. You can reach her at

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