10 Steps to Dismantle Ageism
How often do you consider your age as being helpful to fulfilling your desires after 60? What kind of desires are they and how does being 60 and over benefit you?
These questions can be difficult to answer at first because you may not view your age as a benefit. If so, you are not alone.
Millions of women over 60 often find more things to lament about their age than they do in seeing the benefits of being 60 and over.
Why is that?
The short answer is ageism.
What exactly is ageism? Where does it originate? And how can we dismantle it?
We will answer these questions and more in this article and accompanying video. This is the fourth of an eight-part article and video series on “Being Enough After 60.”
What Is Ageism?
Ageism refers to prejudice, stereotyping, and discrimination against individuals based on their age. As a debilitating form of social bias, ageism can affect all aspects of life, especially for those of us 60 and over.
From a devaluation of our worthiness and diminished options for romantic partners, to unhelpful options for healthcare and limiting social interactions, there are many areas ageism affects our overall well-being. It can also have a negative impact on our finances, such as decreased employment or lack of business opportunities.
Many people are convinced that ageism comes from outside of us. Therefore, it can only be solved by fighting against society’s negative perceptions of aging. While there is a lot of evidence to suggest that is true, there is only one place ageism can truly be dismantled. That place is within you.
10 Steps to Dismantle Ageism
Addressing ageism and its impact on the emotional well-being of women over 60 requires both individual and societal efforts.
Before you go exerting your emotional, physical, and even financial resources to changing the outside world’s perception of aging, it’s essential you go to work on changing your inner world first.
Women over 60 can take several steps to dismantle ageism and promote their well-being. Here are 10 steps you can take to support your journey:
Educate Yourself
Read books, articles, watch documentaries, attend workshops and/or take online courses that challenge myths about aging and rewrite the narrative of outdated stereotypes.
Reframe Limiting Beliefs
Identify limiting beliefs you have about aging as well as negative assumptions about what you can be, do, and have. Create a list of positive affirmations about yourself that counter and reframe these beliefs.
Change Daily Routine
Engage in a new daily routine that defies ageist expectations, such as trying new hobbies or pursuing physical fitness goals.
Expand Your Network
Seek out intergenerational connections by joining online and offline community groups. Attend events or activities that encourage diversity and inclusion across different age groups.
Personal and Professional Development
Enroll in online classes or workshops that foster personal growth and learning. Explore new areas of interest or hobbies to challenge fixed beliefs and help you foster a growth mindset.
Practice Self-Care
Engage in loving, self-care activities that promote physical, emotional, and mental well-being.Start with daily meditation of at least 10-15 minutes as well as journaling your experiences.
Creative Self-Expression
Express yourself through creative outlets such as art, writing, dance, yoga, or music.Prioritize activities that bring joy and fulfillment, regardless of societal expectations.
Share Your Story
Write a personal memoir or start a blog to share your experiences and insights about ageism. Also, use social media platforms to amplify your voice and advocate for positive aging.
Engage in Positive Media Representation
Tune out media that perpetuate negative, fear driven stories about aging. Support media outlets that promote realistic and diverse representations of mature women. Also, share positive stories and articles about aging and inspirational women on social media.
Reflect and Celebrate Personal Growth
Take time each day to not only do inner introspection but also journal your experiences in dismantling ageism. Celebrate your achievements, big and small, and acknowledge the progress you’ve made.
It’s Your World
By applying these 10 actionable steps, while also adding your own, you will play a pivotal role in empowering yourself and others to reframe society’s perception of aging and contribute to a more inclusive world.
Your outer world reflects your inner world. Therefore, when you look outside of yourself don’t see someone’s limited idea of who you are but instead see yourself positively reflected in the world around you.
Ageism does not have to be thorn in the heart of your innermost desires. With a little adjustment of your inner perceptions about aging and realigning your sense of worthiness from within, you can overcome even the most challenging aspects of ageism.
I invite you to join me in the video where I share additional insights into overcoming challenges of ageism along with three journal prompts and 10 affirmations to help you integrate what you are learning.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
What was a recent encounter you had with ageism? How did it play out? Do you think ageism is only external or does it have an internal component as well? Which of these 10 steps do you resonate with and do you have any stories to share on how you have reframed your perception of ageism?
Tags Getting Older
I am now 66 almost 67 years old. Several years ago I was looking for a job as a cashier. I must have turned out 50 of my resumes and got only two interviews. One of the two that I went on was to interview to be a grocery store cashier. I have a huge retail background with many years of cashiering experience but I had never done it in a grocery store setting. The manager kept me waiting almost 20 minutes for the interview. She finally sat down with me and the first words out of her mouth were, “you are aware that this is a very demanding position right”? I told her that I was very used to hard work and standing on my feet for long periods of time. She then didn’t miss a beat saying, “well, I think you might be much better suited to work with the greeting card section of the store”. This was my first experience with blatant ageism. And I can tell you that quite frankly, it really pissed me off. I was/am in the best shape of my life and can and do run circles around some of these young kids who call out every other day with a hangnail. Needless to say, I didn’t take that job. In fact, after her last response I got up and said, “this interview is OVER” and I walked out with my head held high and moved on. I ended up getting hired at another grocery store and have been cashiering there ever since.
Well done! I worked retail in my 50’s and encountered similar treatment. The ageism in these minimum-wage jobs is awful I discovered. Enjoyed the customers but the management was abysmal. These were non-grocery chains.
Had considered applying for a grocery chain in 2023 where I shop and in the middle of the process decided against it for all the reasons you mentioned, and instead have decided to return to school for a certificate in bookkeeping. Postponed for a year because am doing a lot of political volunteering in a very important election year.
So glad you left the condescending interview and found a better employer!
Good Morning everyone! I just turned 76 and I do feel it sometime, especially physically. I try and hit the gym 2 or 3 times a week, but I find it a chore. I am a quilter and I crochet. I also volunteer 2 days a week. I find it very hard to hear negative remarks like “oh, it’s not fun getting older”. I would like to have a positive answer to say when someone says something like that. Any suggestions?
My two friends and I stopped in Costco to enjoy a hot dog before going on with our day’s plan. A woman in a cashier line smiled and said she loved seeing the three of us (all over 70) together. She meant it in a friendly way but it was obvious she perceived seniors as not being capable to have that kind of camaraderie. Personally, I walk at least two miles daily, participate in several Silver Sneakers classes every week, belong to Scientific and Medical Network, am a former member of IONS and attend online events at the Pari Center in Italy. I have a high IQ, am 78 and loving life while I can. Oh yes, I volunteer too.