One of the most common things I hear from women regarding what they want in a relationship is that they are looking for a true partner to share life’s joys and responsibilities. We are tired of being ‘in charge’ of everything, even though we’re so good at it.
Although women are more capable than ever before, that get it done attitude is a masculine energy trait that doesn’t always translate well into your love life. Although men and women share both energy characteristics because no one is 100% masculine or 100% feminine, men typically default to masculine energy and women typically default to feminine energy – in a perfect world.
Masculine energy traits include characteristics such as leadership, action, reason, logic, adventure, strength, loyalty, and assertiveness. While feminine energy traits include such things as charm, communication, collaboration, nurturing, sensitivity, self-awareness, and intuition. Masculine energy is a giving energy and feminine energy is a receiving energy.
From these simple lists you can easily see why we all need both energies in our day-to-day world. But how does that impact dating and relationships?
One of the differences between how men and women think is that men enjoy having a job to do and feel successful when they can make you happy. So, when you’re planning a date, who does the planning?
Even though women want men to take charge and share the load, we have a hard time giving up control over how it’s done. If you decide on the place, make the reservations, decide on the time, and figure out all the details, how does this impact a masculine-energy man who feels successful when he makes you happy? He’ll feel out of sync and useless.
If you approach a high-masculine energy man with your own masculine energy, you’ll create an environment of two bucks fighting for alpha position. A masculine-energy man will only battle you for position for so long. If you’re too much work, he’ll simply move on to another woman who graciously accepts what he has to offer.
Feminine energy has nothing to do with a woman’s independence. When you lean back and give a man the space he needs to pursue you and give up some of the control over the tactical day-to-day aspects of your relationship, you actually gain more independence because now you have more time to relax and enjoy life more fully.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t offer suggestions or options. Of course you can, simply make the suggestions and let your man figure out the details. When you lean back, he has the room to move forward and take some of the load off your shoulders.
In my personal experience, I have found many men who are hesitant to step up when you first meet them. They may feel like letting you plan the date is playing it safe, or let’s be honest; maybe he’s simply a lazy dater.
Regardless of the reason, if the man lets you plan the date, you know he’s in his receiving feminine energy. And once you take control of the dating experience, it’s hard to give it back. This means you may find yourself managing the relationship more than you hoped to. Feminine-energy men are naturally attracted to strong masculine-energy women. They make life so easy for them.
If you’re currently dating or in a relationship, can you motivate a man to step up into his masculine energy? The short answer is yes. The longer answer is that it takes time, patience, and consistency. You see, leaning back is something some women don’t do naturally so there may be a learning curve for you as well.
If you flip a switch and go from masculine to feminine energy overnight, your partner may feel like he’s dating a stranger. So, start small. Begin by asking him to take the responsibility for specific tasks and then show your appreciation when he does.
Once he begins to step into his masculine energy, brain chemicals like testosterone are activated which help make the process easier. If you continue to lean back so he can lean forward, you’ll soon find yourself making plans and decisions about your activities and relationship as a team.
I hope this gave you some food for thought. Until next time, keep your heart open and ready for love. You never know where it will find you.
Have you ever considered the concepts of masculine and feminine energy and how they affect your relationship? Are you more masculine or feminine in nature? Have you tried to lean the other way on purpose? What was the result?
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I am very surprised to read such a traditional stereotypical description of sex roles, under the guise of the term ” masculine or feminine energy”. What a dated approach!
I found it informative. I never knew about this energy between men and women. In my opinion, I believe for a long long time women have been made to take on the lead in our society. In any relationship if you have communication, compromise it’s a good start.
I’m sorry but you can’t categorise men and women like that. In my relationship
In the last 50 years or so, if I didn’t make bookings for nights out and holidays, we
never went. Business was always a priority for him and to get away even when i
had booked, meant he would hang on to last minute jobs right up to the last.
Cajoling and giving him small tasks in this way never worked.
sorry but it’s not all cut and dried in a Maculine/Feminine way, I’m perfectly happy
now single and prioritising what I want out of life.