What Does October Theory Have to Do with Dating? A Lot, It Seems!

I was already working on this article over the weekend, when yesterday, I stumbled on a piece of writing published in the Wall Street Journal, titled “October is the Time to Reset Goals” by Ann-Marie Alcantara.

I was amazed by the coincidence and thought, “OMG, I am on the right track!”

Don’t worry, I’m not going to bore you with the whole story, though I will share the direct link below, so stay tuned for that.

Instead, I will give you 10 reasons why I agree with the reasoning about resetting goals in October. After 30 years in the matchmaking business, I’ve seen this every October and apparently, so has Ann-Marie of the WSJ.

The Idea Behind October Theory

The idea here? It’s dubbed “October Theory,” and it revolves around people rethinking their approach to the last three months of the year. I find this to be true with my new clients too. They accept October as a time to set goals, pick up new habits (dating) and reflect – essentially taking on the role New Year’s plays.

Remember how we reset ourselves in the Fall – going back to college, high school, etc.? It gave us a feeling of newness; the desire to change some things. Yep, that feeling!

Ready for a Pre-Holiday Reset?

Here we go with my 10 dating tips:

#1: Think Outside Your “Type”

You may always go for the 6’2″ athlete, but love can surprise you. I’ve seen many people fall for someone they swore wasn’t their type.

#2: Don’t Expect Perfection

No one is perfect, or even remotely close, so don’t expect it from yourself either! Embrace imperfections.

#3: Your Date Is Not a Mind Reader

A healthy relationship needs communication, chemistry, and shared values. Did I mention communication?

#4: Trust Your Gut

If something feels off – like a sketchy profile or one suspicious photo – listen to your instincts.

#5: Don’t Get Attached Too Quickly

One date doesn’t mean you’ve met “the one.” Rushing to quit dating others after one great date is a bad idea. I had this happen yesterday with a client – she wants to stop meeting other men even though she’s only had one super date. Nope. I’d give it 4-5 dates before you ditch others.

#6: Dive into Online Dating

Set a goal for four first dates in the first two weeks. It’ll build your confidence, especially if you’ve been out of the dating scene for a while.

#7: Say Yes

Whether it’s a party, a hike with new people, or a date with someone you’re unsure about, take the chance. You never know where it might lead.

#8: Live in the Moment

Stop worrying about date #3 or how it will work with your kids. Focus on enjoying the present moment.

#9: Don’t Overthink If They Stop Texting

If they ghost you, don’t dwell on it. There’s a huge dating pool out there – move on!

#10: Know What You Deserve

Never settle. In my 30 years as a dating coach, I’ve learned one thing: there’s a lid for every pot.

Read the Wall Street Journal article here: “October is the Time to Reset Goals”.

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Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you heard of October Theory? What goals have you decided to reset this October? How well are you navigating this decision?