Solo Living

If you have been married for a long time and are now divorced or widowed, or even if you have never married at all, chances are your ideas about love are outdated. I don’t mean that as a criticism. I mean it as a relief. When I found myself single in my 60s after more than 30 years of marriage…

Be honest: have you asked the question above to yourself or to a friend? If you have, please go back and read the words. It’s only you? What does that say about your worthiness to be well-nourished?

I did not picture my life as it looks approaching 70 – not as a kid or young adult, not as part of a couple for 35 years. Not ever. Yet the script seems so perfectly written, I know this is exactly where I’m meant to be. Even 10 years ago, I’d have laughed if you predicted I’d be twice divorced at 70…

There are many reasons women are single, yet the term “single woman” is still often narrowly defined – usually referring to someone who is not married and, in some cases, someone without children. But that definition…

One thing I love about living in an apartment building is that, while I live alone, I’m surrounded by caring humans. We look out for each other. We hold doors, water plants, have the occasional glass of wine, exchange keys, and check in when someone…

Let’s be honest: a whole lot of women of a certain age are out here living alone – and thriving. And why wouldn’t we be? Living solo comes…

One of the topics that endlessly fascinates me is how solo women of “a certain age’” are going to live healthy and happy lives in retirement. Many single women prefer solitude and want to live alone. Others crave living with a crowd of like-minded people of all ages…

For most of my life, I was rarely alone. I was married for over 30 years and raised three children. My days were full of meals to make and pickups from school and activities. When my kids were young, I often dreamed of just one…

Last week, I went to my ex-husband’s 85th birthday party at a local tavern. He looked terrific, and I was happy to see the turnout. We bought each other a beer, shared a hug and reminisced about meeting 40 years ago at a very similar pub. When I left the party, I pushed aside…

The holidays can magnify feelings of loneliness and isolation – especially when you’re navigating them as a single woman after years of celebrating as part of a couple. As a dating coach for women over 50, I hear the ache in women’s voices when they talk about spending…