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How to Make Friends as an Adult

For most of our lives, our social relationships are accidental. Then, in our 60s, we find ourselves wondering how to make friends as an adult. This is not a trivial question. Having strong social ties is good for our health and happiness. Let’s explore this topic together.

Making Friends as an Adult – How to Look Past “Accidental” Friendships
2 years ago

Making Friends as an Adult – How to Look Past “Accidental” Friendships

Have you ever thought about the fact that, for most of our lives, the majority of our friends are “accidental?” When we are children, we choose our friends from among the other kids in our classes. When we join the workforce, our colleagues form the backbone of our social life. When we become parents, our life becomes an intricate dance of sports events, sleep overs camping trips and family dinners. Read More

Making Friends as an Adult – Remember that You Can’t Change People
2 years ago

Making Friends as an Adult – Remember that You Can’t Change People

Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to change other people? This is true even in loving relationships, where both people have an incentive to listen and respond to their partner’s needs. It is especially true for our friends and acquaintances who, while they may care for us, are mostly interested in getting the most from their own lives. Read More

“Cheers” Can Teach Us About Making Friends as an Adult
3 years ago

“Cheers” Can Teach Us About Making Friends as an Adult

As we reach our 60s, many of us find that our social circumstances are changing. Our kids, once the center of our lives, are grown up and are pursuing their own dreams. Our careers are either winding down or changing dramatically. Many of us are dealing with a divorce or separation. As a result, many baby boomers find themselves having to make new friends again for the first time in years. Read More

“Don’t Talk to Strangers” Great Advice for Kids, Horrible Advice for Adults
3 years ago

“Don’t Talk to Strangers” Great Advice for Kids, Horrible Advice for Adults

It’s every parent’s worst nightmare. You’re sitting in your living room, waiting for your child to come home. They’re 5 minutes late. Then 15. Then the panic sets in.

As parents, we wanted to do everything we could to protect our kids from our own imagined fears. If we could have surrounded them in bubble-wrap and assigned them bodyguards, we would have. But, since our kids would never let us get away with that, we did the next best thing. We nagged, bribed, threatened and cajoled them. We told them, in a hundred different ways, “Don’t talk to strangers.” Then, we hoped for the best. Read More

What is Friendship? Are We Thinking About it All Wrong?
3 years ago

What is Friendship? Are We Thinking About it All Wrong?

What is friendship? It’s a harder question than you think. When you think about the phrase “making friends,” what images come into your mind? Read More

Is Making Friends as an Adult Easier or Harder After 60?
3 years ago

Is Making Friends as an Adult Easier or Harder After 60?

Making friends as an adult is always difficult, but, it’s not until we reach our 50s and 60s that things really start to get interesting.

For most of our lives, our friendships follow our social context. As kids, our lives are filled with schoolmates, neighbors and teammates. As parents, we follow our kids to BBQs, sports events and school activities. When we are building our careers, our co-workers are a constant source of social contact – even if we wish that they weren’t.

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Overcoming Loneliness is Possible if You Understand Your Social Preferences
3 years ago

Overcoming Loneliness is Possible if You Understand Your Social Preferences

One of the challenges when it comes to overcoming loneliness is that everyone’s idea of friendship is slightly different. In addition, each of us has a different level of comfort when it comes to social interaction. Read More

Are You Accidentally Ignoring Your True Friends?
3 years ago

Are You Accidentally Ignoring Your True Friends?

Have you noticed how some friends love to be around you when times are good but run for the hills at the first sign of trouble? Were they ever true friends? A few weeks ago, a friend of mine told me about her experience with cancer. Her husband, who was relatively young, was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer and given about a year to live. Over the next 12 months, she did everything that she could to keep him comfortable, before he sadly passed away. Read More

3 Amazing Places to Meet People Online Who Share Your Interests
3 years ago

3 Amazing Places to Meet People Online Who Share Your Interests

Women over 60 are much more technologically savvy than most people give us credit for! But, even if you are comfortable with technology, it can often be difficult to know where to look for people who share your interests. This is especially true at a time when we need to be more careful than ever about our privacy and security online. Read More