I’m not very comfortable at parties.
I flit around like a hummingbird, never lingering with any one person. Or I latch on to one person in hopes of having a conversation that lasts all evening.
As older women, we all want to make the world a better place. Unfortunately, we often feel powerless to make a real difference in the lives of others. Yes, we can donate to charities or support political organizations, but, the impact that we can make through these activities feels distant and fragmented.
I’ve come to the conclusion, in my seventh decade, that there really is no such thing as too much fun. It seems to follow that people with more friends tend to have more fun. So, I’m branching out and meeting new people.
There are many ways that retiring overseas can improve your life. It can reduce your cost of living, while improving your overall quality of life. It can surround you with cultural experiences that you would have never have had back home. It can even act as a catalyst for reinvention.
A great number of studies tells us social interaction is important and good for our health and overall well-being. Especially so among senior women.
Conversely, here’s what could happen if you neglect your social well-being:
It’s very probable that all of us know the feeling when a friend surprises us with really bad news, such as a possible terminal medical diagnosis.
For me, bad news can feel like a kick to the gut. I make an effort to stay bravely positive and present for my friend, but all the while I’m thinking, “Oh no, pancreatic cancer!? not again! I’ve already lost two friends.”
Sounds too good to be true, right? But in all honesty, it is possible. Exercise is much more fun when we can make it a social event – and if food is involved, so much the better.
Here are 4 ways to make new friends and get fit, simultaneously:
As a psychotherapist and podcaster, I thought I had pretty much mastered the art of conversation. Sure, I knew I had a couple of bad habits, like interrupting and repeating myself, and I’ve had clients get confused at my multi-part questions.
Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to change other people? This is true even in loving relationships, where both people have an incentive to listen and respond to their partner’s needs.
It is especially true for our friends and acquaintances who, while they may care for us, are mostly interested in getting the most from their own lives.