Recently, I received a letter from a woman who told me nothing is working in her dating life. No one is interested in her. No one is interested in her friends either.
They, like her, are experiencing loneliness and a lack of contact with men.
If you ask a group of single older women describe their experiences with senior dating, you will face sighs, knowing chuckles and more than a few rolled eyes. Many women who dipped their toes in the over 50 dating waters, quickly pulled them out again. Others stayed in the dating pool halfheartedly, trying not to get scammed or hurt more than really looking for someone exciting to spend time with.
Loving relationships are tricky at any age, but, according to dating coach David Wygant, its men over 50 who really shoot themselves in the foot! After years in the dating game, older men somehow forget how to approach women.
When it comes to senior dating, having lots of life experience is a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, by the time we reach our 50s and 60s, we know who we are and what we want from life. In many ways, we also have more to offer a potential partner.
Where have all the single older men gone? That’s one of the most common questions that women ask when they get back into the over 50 dating game.
Is mature dating worth the trouble? Over the last few years, I have been asked this question by so many women in our community. When we’re young, dating seems to be mostly about physical attraction and emotional attachment. But, by the time we reach our 60s, we tend to have a different perspective on romance.
For starters, many of us have been hurt before. Even those of us who have survived our previous relationships relatively unscathed, have a great deal of romantic experience to draw on.
After 6 decades on this planet, you could be forgiven for believing that love after 60 doesn’t matter. After all, many of us have plenty of practice living alone. Quite a few of us even enjoy living by ourselves. In this interview, I ask dating coach, Lisa Copeland whether “life without a man” is a viable option for women in their 50s and 60s. Then, we discuss whether love even matters. I think that you will find Lisa’s answer’s surprising. Enjoy the show!
In many ways, senior dating is like dating at any other age. We still want to find someone to share our dreams with. We are still looking for a partner who can support and love us. We still have many options for where to meet people – from online dating to speed dating to simply saying hi to someone on the bus.
When it comes to love after 60, many women feel like they are left with an uncomfortable choice – intimacy vs. independence. On the one hand, by the time we reach our 50s and 60s, many of us are comfortable living on or own. Perhaps we went through a divorce. Or, maybe, we simply choose never to marry. Either way, the idea of giving up part of our independence, even for love, can be terrifying.