Not long ago, I met a very lovely lady who enthusiastically shared her story of love lost and found again. She explained how her husband had died 20 years earlier. Years later, after vowing that she would never love anyone else, this woman found herself falling in love again.
Even though we probably don’t realize it, throughout our lives, we have been bombarded with images of the stereotypical “cute little old couple.” In the movies and on TV, growing old with someone else is portrayed as “normal.” Single older people are generally shown to be depressed, lonely, mean or anti-social.
Welcome to another installment of my “living like a millionaire on a retirement budget” series. No matter what our financial situation, we all have budgets. Living beautifully — or luxuriously can hinge on changing a perception or making an attitude adjustment.
When an acquaintance, Michael, shared with me that he had lost his job at a small law firm, it opened a new level of communication between us. We talked about his new situation and he told me he was very appreciative of having my ear. I’d see him most mornings at the dog park where our dogs played together.
Recently, I wrote an article for Sixty and Me about being single and feeling fabulous about it. The response was enormous and the comments were enlightening!
If you were brought up in the 60’s and 70’s, chances are you were trained to be a strong, independent woman. It’s likely you were taught you didn’t need a man in your life. You thought that anything a man could do, you could probably do even better.
The definition of Ghosting according to Urban Dictionary is, “The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date.”
A better definition is… you and I meet, we have amazing chemistry, we hang out and have awesome sex. I bond to you and then you disappear, ultimately breaking my heart. You don’t answer my calls or texts and I am so confused and concerned.
Have you been married for more than 30 years? Congratulations!
Whether you have reached this milestone with almost no friction, or, like most couples, had to deal with plenty of “plateaus” over the years, this is definitely something to be celebrated.
The senior dating game can be tough. Not only can it bruise your ego, but, it can also bring up all the unhealed rejection that happened earlier in life.
Recently, I received a letter from a woman who told me nothing is working in her dating life. No one is interested in her. No one is interested in her friends either.
They, like her, are experiencing loneliness and a lack of contact with men.