Is Being Sexual After 60 Just About the Sex?

When was the last time you felt confident with your sexuality?

If you are like many of us who are over 60, the question can leave you scratching your head, wondering how far back in the rearview mirror of the past you have to look to locate the last time you felt confident with your sexuality.

There are many limiting beliefs and outdated stories about sexuality that can make you feel your inner flame is all but gone as you age.

But what if you could radically improve your lifestyle by boosting your sexual confidence and embracing your sexuality after 60?

This article and the accompanying video begin a new, 10-part exclusive series for Sixty and Me readers titled “Improve Your Lifestyle After 60 by Boosting Your Sexual Confidence.”

Limiting Beliefs and False Stories

Feeling confident about your sexuality is not just a matter of sexual pleasure with yourself or a partner.

What often gets in the way of cultivating your sexual confidence comes down to false myths, outdated stories, and limiting beliefs.

Therefore, feeling sexy at this stage of life is a mindset issue.

To develop a healthy and confident mindset will require you to first get clear on the limiting beliefs that frame the stories you tell yourself about sex and intimacy. When you identify what is holding you back, the easier it will be for you to shift into a more empowered state of mind.

To get started, I want to share with you five of the more common limiting beliefs about love and sexuality that women and men over 60 have. I will also reveal the corresponding false story linked to the limiting belief.

1) Limiting Belief: “Sexuality fades with age.”

Outdated Story: “I’m past my prime, so my sex life will never be as good as it was when I was younger.”

2) Limiting Belief: “My body is no longer attractive or desirable.”

Outdated Story: “Only youthful bodies are sexy. My wrinkles, weight, or changes make me unworthy of intimacy.”

3) Limiting Belief: “If I don’t have a partner, there’s no point in embracing my sexuality.”

Outdated Story: “Sexuality is only for people in relationships. Self-pleasure or personal sensuality is unfulfilling.”

4) Limiting Belief: “Talking about my needs and desires is embarrassing.”

Outdated Story: “Expressing what I want is selfish or shameful.”

5) Limiting Belief: “It’s too late for me to experience passion and romance.”

Outdated Story: “Real love and pleasure happen when you’re younger. At my age, it’s about companionship, not passion.”

Installing New Beliefs and New Stories

Even if some of these limiting beliefs and stories are not directly related to you, being aware of them can still help reframe your perspectives and further integrate new narratives about your sexuality into your mindset and lifestyle.

Here are five new, empowering beliefs and corresponding stories that can replace limiting beliefs or false stories that no longer serve you.

Also read: 7 Steps to Turn Up the HEAT on Your Love Life

New Belief #1: “My Sexuality Is Timeless. I Have the Power to Cultivate Passion at Any Age.”

New Story: “Passion is not limited by age for it evolves and deepens with experience. My desires and pleasures are uniquely mine to explore. I embrace them with curiosity and joy. Every stage of life offers new ways to experience intimacy. I welcome the unfolding of my sensuality with an open mind and heart.”

2) New Belief: “My Body Is an Evolving Masterpiece. I Embrace My Sensuality with Confidence and Love.”

New Story: “My body tells the story of my journey. It is strong, wise, and worthy of love and pleasure. I celebrate its curves, changes, and unique beauty. Instead of seeking perfection, I choose to honor and appreciate my body for all the ways it allows me to experience life, love, and intimacy.”

3) New Belief: “Sexual Pleasure and Self-Discovery Are My Birthright, Regardless of Relationship Status.”

New Story: “I do not need permission or validation from anyone to embrace my sensual self. My pleasure is for me first. Whether I am single, in a relationship, or rediscovering intimacy, I have full ownership of my sexuality. I give myself permission to explore what brings me joy and fulfillment.”

4) New Belief: “I Deserve to Express My Desires Openly, Knowing That My Voice Matters.”

New Story: “Speaking my truth about what I desire is a gift to myself and those I share intimacy with. I am a confident communicator, knowing that my needs, boundaries, and pleasures are valid. Love and intimacy flourish when I allow myself to be fully seen, heard, and understood.”

5) New Belief: “Love, Intimacy, and Passion Are Always Available to Me, and I Welcome Them with an Open Heart.”

New Story: “My heart is open to love in all its beautiful forms, from self-love and romantic love, to deep friendships, and sensual connections. I do not chase love; I attract it by being fully present, embracing who I am, and allowing connection to unfold naturally.”

Next Steps:

Now that you have clear examples of what kind of new beliefs and stories you can apply in your life, in our next article and video, you will learn how you can turn yourself on and enjoy pleasuring the most beautiful, sensual person in your life – which is YOU!

I invite you to join me in the video, where I will guide you through a five-part, step-by-step process for reinforcing your new beliefs and stories. I will also guide you through three journal prompts to help you integrate what you are learning.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Is sensuality part of your mindset? Do you live in a way that embraces your sensuality? What limiting beliefs have worked in your life?