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5 Tips on How to Celebrate Yourself this Valentine’s Day!

By Deborah Voll February 06, 2023 Lifestyle

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching! Perhaps you’ve boycotted the “Hallmark ” holiday, or you embrace it with fun for yourself, your partner, and galantines. Whether you are in a partnership or flying solo, there is no better time than this month to turn inwards and spend some time acknowledging how amazing you are.

Why Is It So Important to Pause and Take a Moment to Do This?

Reflecting on everything you’re grateful for, how far you’ve come, and what you’ve accomplished is a step to reaching new goals, which keeps us young and mentally tough. Dr. David DeSteno, author of the book Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride, shares that positive emotions lead to greater achievement in life.

Self-doubt, anxiety, and fear deplete our willpower to achieve goals, but feelings like pride, gratitude, and compassion lead to success because we crave these positive emotions.

Women who take the time to celebrate themselves have better mental health and resiliency. Studies show these women also have stronger social connections, greater creativity, physical health, and overall satisfaction with life.

Now that you know some of the benefits that come with honoring your accomplishments, don’t forget to share this list with a friend or two and celebrate together!

Here are five tips for you to consider during the month of February.

Celebrate Knowledge – Sign Up for a Continuing Education Class

A great way to celebrate yourself is to reflect on and pursue an interest that you didn’t have time for in the past. Have you always wanted to learn French before traveling to Paris? Take some advanced math classes because you love puzzles? Learn to draw like Picasso? Study Italian and Greek architecture?

Try Scuba Diving? Yoga? Now is your chance. Not only do community colleges and universities offer continuing education, but some classes can also be taken online from the comfort of your living room!

Taking a class (or two!) keeps you active, your brain young and agile, as well as provides the opportunity to meet new people. What better way to celebrate yourself during the month of February than to invest in your mental and emotional health while pursuing a topic that has always interested you?

Give Yourself the Gift of Peace – Sign Off of Social Media

Many of us have a love/hate relationship with social media. I enjoy seeing friends’ recent pictures, hearing about silly escapades and getting caught up in cute animal reels on Instagram. However, the downside of social media is that it can fuel comparison, anxiety, and depression.

Study after study has come out regarding screen time and its links to increased mental health struggles. One of the challenges I hear from clients is feeling like they are ‘behind’ their friends regarding their careers and goals.

Cut yourself some slack and take a break from social media. You are enough; you are doing enough; you are where you need to be right now. Here’s a challenge – turn off the alerts for your social media apps, or, if you’re brave, turn off your phone altogether.

Take the day to focus on things that add positivity and healing to your mental health, like meditation, repeating healing mantras, nature, face-to-face connection with friends, decluttering, or music.

Celebrate Community – Volunteer for a Cause Close to Your Heart

What better way to connect with your community than with a cause you feel passionate about? Shawnah, a client, recently organized a fundraiser for a local non-profit that helps women and children rescued from sex trafficking.

Shawnah organized the event, worked on the marketing, scheduled the speaker, and collaborated with friends. She shined in her managerial role, which highlighted her collaborative gifts, and even discovered a new career path in the process.

Another client, Rebekah, loves to hike. She spends a Saturday every month volunteering to maintain local hiking trails around her. She loves getting outside with like-minded people and has made new friends and hiking buddies!

What are you passionate about? Animal Rescue? The Environment? Children? Disaster Relief? Get on Google and find a hundred opportunities to spread love to your community.

Celebrate Connection – Write a Note or Two to Friends

There is power in a handwritten note. A fantastic Valentine’s tradition started by a friend of mine was to write a handwritten note to each of her friends for Valentine’s Day. Gina would buy cute cards and stickers and fill each card with sweet or funny memories from the past year.

Then she would list five things she loved, admired, or treasured about each of us. Of course, this caught on in my friend group, and now we all send Valentine’s cards! Not only have I kept all the cards from my friends over the years, but I also take them out and read the sweet messages when I’m feeling blue.

How amazing would it be to open your mailbox on Valentine’s Day and find a few letters from friends waiting for you? Be the one to start the tradition of sharing what you appreciate about your friends while celebrating connection.

Celebrate the Future – Envision Your Future

Create a new Valentine’s Day tradition by spending part of the day writing down all the experiences you’ve had and the goals you’ve achieved in the past year. My friends and I came up with a great list that included the following: taking a business course, traveling to Italy, starting a business, outlining and writing a book, starting a podcast, losing weight, buying a house, starting a yoga practice, running a half-marathon, changing careers, getting married, getting divorced, volunteering, taking care of aging parents, saving for retirement, learning to surf, learning to salsa dance and this was just the start!

After considering everything you’ve accomplished, make some SMART goals for the upcoming year. Where would you like to be in your career, relationships, and personal life six months from now? A year from now? What do you want to accomplish? Where would you like to travel?

Write down your goals in your journal or on a vision board, and take the first small step toward them. For example, if you want to begin a new health practice, you may find a video you can follow on YouTube or make an appointment to sign up for a Yoga class.

Don’t forget to make a goal that you won’t only celebrate and love yourself on Valentine’s Day but every day this year.

Now Is the Time

As you celebrate yourself this February, you may realize that you’re ready to pursue a promotion, step into retirement, a new career, or even start a business. Would you like help getting clarity around your goals? I would love to connect!

I coach women to find their passion, update their resumes, and focus on work that matters to them. I would love to set up a free call and hear about how you celebrated yourself this Valentine’s Day!

Let’s Start the Conversation:

How are you celebrating Valentine’s? What ideas to celebrate yourself could you share with others?

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Aw, I love these suggestions! I had my first date with my husband on Valentine’s Day in 1988. We still celebrate by going out to dinner, talking about that first date, and listing ways in which we appreciate each other. And of course, perhaps most importantly, I will eat chocolate. Dark, with almonds :)

Deborah Voll

Gaili, What a great story about your first date with your husband on Valentine’s Day! I am glad you still take the time each year to celebrate and list how you appreciate each other! The dark chocolate and almonds sound like the best part!!

The Author

Deborah Voll, Certified Life and Career Coach helps women who feel stuck. “Helping you identify your passion and how to get it is my calling.” Reentering the workplace, changing careers, or retired and wondering what’s next. Get a free call at www.deborahvoll.com and listen to her weekly podcast, “Calm the Chaos.”

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