When it comes to finding true love after 60, there is plenty of advice on the subject, not to mention a variety of ways and places to connect with others.
The kind of true love I am speaking of in this three-part series, however, is less about discovering it outside of yourself and more about strengthening your inner connection to where true love resides, which is within you.
In part-one of the series we looked at The Seven Myths of Love & Happiness™ as a means to better understand why it is so easy to get caught up in chasing for love in all the wrong places. Now, we are going to explore the inner journey, which is reuniting with your true self.
The door to reunite with your true self is always open. All you need to do is walk through it. Like true love, that door is within you. Once you find it, then it’s about granting yourself permission to walk through it and into a new, more delightful and empowering way of being.
Knowing you can walk through this door involves embodying four empowering processes to reunite with your true self. Before we get to these, it is necessary to first gain clarity on what your true self means in relation to finding true love.
Like all of us, you seek to be loved and valued, especially with those people that matter most to you. Seeking this is one thing, but knowing you are worthy of being loved and valued, is where the foundation is set for all successful external relationships.
This goes beyond a simple intellectual belief you are worthy. It is inner embodiment of your true self that creates an unshakable foundation for love and joy to flow into and through your life no matter what external circumstances may look like. Unfortunately, most of our generation were never given the opportunity to get to know who we really are.
Many women over 60 were raised and educated to be people pleasers. This places our sense of worth and value in the hands and perceptions of others.
Add to this a seemingly never-ending journey of surviving the unexpected twists and turns of life, there would appear to be little time or external support to slow down long enough to get a sense of what truly makes your heart sing.
To do this, and thus, to reunite with your true self, requires knowing where and how you became disconnected from your true self. This is why slowing things down is not a luxury but a necessity.
Pinpointing where you became disconnected from your true self, and how that disconnection is upheld in the present, is not about rehashing old trauma. It is also not about stirring up emotions you have long since moved on from.
This involves a deep, inner transformational discovery process. The key to it is becoming aware of the unconscious beliefs about yourself and toxic behavioral patterns about love that led you to unknowingly give away your power – and perhaps still do.
These kinds of deep level discoveries bring an immediate perceptual shift in your outer physical reality in the now of nows.
When you make a conscious choice to change your thoughts and beliefs, backed by positive behaviors aligned with your desires for this type of change, new neurological pathways are created. This produces measurable shifts in your mind and body right away.
For this reason, and more, to reunite with your true self is an integral part of finding true love and establishing genuine sustainable happiness… in all areas of your life.
Here, then, are the four processes to Reunite with Your True Self. The through-line in all of them is developing unshakable self-love by becoming aware of what has gotten in the way of loving your true, authentic self.
This allows you to accurately reinterpret the way you define your self-worth and begin the process of reclaiming your power and thus, reunite with your true self.
This means fine-tuning your observations in both the past and present to accurately see which outer attachments and difficult circumstances in life have triggered you to give way your power, and with it, diminish your sense of self-worth.
At an earlier time in your life, many of your current beliefs and their corresponding emotions and attachments may have once served you. But if they are no longer supporting your current heart’s desires, releasing them is a sure-fire way to deepen your connection with who you are at this point in your life journey.
By forgiving yourself and others for what you think was done to you, and by being grateful for the gifts of your life experiences, you can reconnect your thoughts and desires to your true self.
In the comments, I invite you to share your personal experiences in letting go of who you once believed you needed to be to please others and how you reunited with your true self.