Adult Children

6 months ago

Parenting Adult Children Can Be Agony

Remember when you first held your newborn? The love that flooded your heart in that incredibly intense moment is wordless to describe. It washes over you and fills your whole being. That love sustains me as a parent. Love is the guide…

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6 months ago

Why Having Adult Children Is Such a Different Experience

Have you ever stopped to think about how very odd it is to have children? It is, when you come to think about it, one of the most peculiar things we ever do. The decision to have children is an enormous leap in the dark, with very little control…

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7 months ago

Over 60 and Rejected by Your Kid? Navigating the Estrangement Struggle

By the time we reach our 60s, we reflect on what we once hoped for with our family. I hear from women that they would grow older harmoniously with their families. It is encouraging and a blessing when this is the case. But many struggle under the shroud of secrecy…

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7 months ago

The Detachment Wall: How to Let Go of Your Adult Children

Some of us moms have a problem with our attachment to our children, to the point where the bond can become unhealthy. Can we love our children but not let their choices or behavior make us crazy? Is some detachment actually a good idea?

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8 months ago

5 Keys to Feeling Better When You Are Estranged

At least 27% of individuals in the United States are estranged from one or more family members. Women over 60, who culturally prefer not to air their family’s laundry, are often shrouded in secrecy. Indeed, this makes a lot of sense; all the uncertainty, shame…

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9 months ago

My Adult Children Cut Me Out of Their Life

I have three wonderful moms in my immediate circle of friends who have been ghosted by their children. Dictionary.com defines ghosting as “the practice of suddenly ending all contact with a person without explanation.” The extreme…

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10 months ago

How to Deal with Estranged Family During the Holidays

Family estrangement for women in their 60s is more common than you think. About 70 million people in the United States report experiencing estrangement from one or more family members. For some, estrangement is a choice due to self-preservation…

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10 months ago

The Joys – and Challenges – of My First Empty Nest Christmas

Christmas is in just a few weeks. My adult children, who finally, truly left the nest this year, were not happy when I told them about the Christmas I am planning for this year when they come home for the holidays. “No tree,” I said. Arose a chorus of complaints…

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1 year ago

I Am the Sum of My Choices – So Are My Adult Children and My Ex-Husband

With nearly a year under my belt of being a divorced 65-year-old, mother of four grown children, I have had time for reflection. The divorce was my choice. I sought and embraced it after years of apathy, contempt and hostility. I couldn’t change…

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1 year ago

Letting Go as a Mom of Grown Children: Is There Ever a Time When Detachment Is a Healthy Idea?

When I think of detachment, I think of a husband unlovingly detached from his wife, or a depressed mother who is detached and uninvolved with her child. In these contexts, detachment occurs in unhealthy relationships. Indeed, the ‘problem’…

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