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The Art of Successful Aging After 60

By Joanie Marx May 04, 2023 Mindset

What is the defining characteristic of a trailblazer?

As you ponder your answer, consider how it relates to our generation, as a whole.

At each stage of our lives, there has been quite a bit written about how Baby Boomers rewrote the rule book on what is possible for living life on our own terms.

Now that most of our generation are 60 and over, once again we are being looked at as blazing a new path for successful aging.

If this is true, and I believe it is, what is the defining characteristic of our generation?

I believe a defining characteristic of our generation, just as it is for most trailblazers, is how carefree we are.

But what does this mean for us today as we redefine the art of successful aging after 60?

In this fifth and final article of a five-part series for Sixty and Me readers, we’re going to answer this question as we focus on the fourth step of the 4 Steps to Blaze a New Path for Yourself After 60.

STEP 4: Be Carefree

Our Childhood and Adulthood Clashed

Once upon a time being carefree was as natural as breathing.

So, what happened between those free-flowing days of childhood and the strict conformity of adulthood?

How did being carefree become a radical act, along with being a defining characteristic of trailblazers?

To answer that we need to look back to our childhood.

As children, we didn’t ask for permission to be carefree. In fact, there was a time our parents actually encouraged us to be carefree.

But as we grew into adulthood, something drastically changed.

Society drilled into our young, impressionable minds that being carefree was irresponsible, frivolous, and childish. In many instances, being carefree could get you into trouble.

Of course, our generation made quite the statement that we would not go quietly into adulthood conformity without a fight. The stigma of being carefree, however, took root in the unconscious part of our generation’s mind.

While some never gave in and remained rebelliously carefree, the majority of our generation became the very adults they so vigorously vowed to never turn into.

In spite of this, each of us remained trailblazers, even if we would not admit to it.

A Radical Act

Whether you see yourself as a trailblazer, based on society’s definitions, there is a good chance you have been inspired to do things many people in your life did not agree with.

Examples include standing up for yourself, embarking on a new career or starting a business. It also includes making your own choices for romantic partners, taking a dream vacation, or simply choosing to make yourself your #1 priority.

All of these examples of being carefree make you a trailblazer.


Because in a world filled with people who choose conformity and play it safe, you are letting go of limiting beliefs.

What does this have to do with aging successfully?


For letting go of limiting beliefs is the art of aging successfully.

Your Wake-Up Call

If you have found yourself yearning for something more but remaining stagnant out of fear of what others would say, allow this article to be your personal wake-up call.

Here are three simple, yet profoundly life-altering, steps for successful aging after 60:

Let Go of Limiting Beliefs

This means developing an empowered mindset by letting go of control for how you believe things should be. Start by identifying limiting beliefs that are holding you back from being more carefree. Once you know what they are, you can begin removing their influence over your life.

Go with the Flow

This is about being present in the moment and is another hallmark of a trailblazer. You can do this by surrendering control over details, which means opening yourself to receive the gifts of life rather than resist them.

Have FUN!

Give yourself permission to be delighted by the curiosity of what it once felt like as a child to have fun. Your inner child is still in you, and she is ready to play when you are.

Now It’s Your Turn

The trailblazers who came before you chose a path of least resistance, even if their path may have looked difficult from the outside. In doing so, they demonstrated a new and better way to drive through life on their own terms.

Now it is your turn to do this for yourself. But you may encounter some resistance.

Whenever resistance shows up on your new path to being a trailblazer, go inward and seek the guidance of your true, authentic self. It is your birthright to be carefree and your true, authentic self will always support you in being so.

Remember, you have access to all the energy and wisdom you need to overcome life’s obstacles and blaze a new path for successful aging after 60.

Join me in the video where I will share additional insights, such as why being carefree is scary and how to make it more enjoyable. I will also guide you through four powerful journal prompts.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you think you are a carefree adult? Have you been carefree through your adulthood? How did you accomplish this – or why were you unable to be carefree? Why do you think being carefree is scary?

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I am now 66 and I have always been somewhat Carefree. I’ve been described as a free spirit. I believe it has helped me to stay young and healthy.

Shaggy Maggie

People changing their sexes has been scaring me…But I want to keep an open mind. I admit, I am ignorant.
Spoke to someone in the know, and am beginning to understand, and actually empathize….. It is a brave new world!


Thank you for keeping an open mind. My daughter is trans. I think she is the bravest person I know. My friends all say they support her but sometimes in conversations they will want to argue with me about it., or they say ‘why doesn’t that son of yours help you more!?”

My daughter, who was my son came out as trans 11 years ago. It has been a rough road for both of us. I still forget to use the right pronouns when I am tired or upset about something. That usually sends her over the bend! Right now she is angry with me because I sent her a funny video of when she was ‘he’. We haven’t spoken for 2 months. She is sometimes like a woman on her period! But God forbid I say that!! ‘Hormones!’

When you see a trans woman in her girly clothes walking alone don’t think she is crazy.. she is extremely brave to be ‘out’ in public! . People stare and snicker behind their backs or outright laugh. My heart breaks into a million pieces when I see this happen

I happened to be in Rome when they had Pride Parade. There was a young, early 20’s, girl on a float. Dressed very nicely in her pretty clothes she was sitting quietly while the rest were dancing to the great music. She looked terrified! She tried to smile and was afraid to look at the crowd. I finally caught her eye and patted my heart and pointed at her and she gave me a little smile and a small wave. I left the parade in tears for her, my own child and all the other trans people. What a life God dumped on them. It is not fair that they have to live in fear!

Thank you for trying to understand and accept them. They have the same hopes and dreams and live like everyone else.

To end this happily….my daughter is 31 years old and last year she got engaged to another trans person. They are both very happy and so are all the parents and step parents. No one wants to see their child be aline their whole lives. ❤️💕


If you want to be accepted unconditionally, you need to reciprocate. You can’t have it 1 way. Not everyone will agree or accept, you need to respect that.

P Charlton

I would understand but never respect opinions that hate others for something they have no control over.

P Charlton

Beautifully said! My son is gay. I love him as God made him. He is perfect in my eyes as he is in God’s. My mother refused to accept him in any way. I wish I could spare him the pain of not having a loving grandmother like I had. His pain but her loss.


Sincere empathy to you, Shay…. you’re doing your very best and your (adult) child is so lucky to have you. 🫂


Maggie, I’m sure you realise that people don’t ‘change their sexes’ for the fun of it. Many are born with gender dysphoria, and they often have a crazy troubled childhood where they are treated as their birth sex, but identify as the other. Fortunately, in the health field, there is increasing recognition of this condition, & these people can be helped psychologically, along with with hormone therapy & sometimes surgical intervention.
Jen 🇦🇺


I had a trans neighbour for 2 years, she was a very brave person who had transitioned in London in the 1990s. In a previous life she had been a husband with 3 children, but told me she was aware she should have been a girl from the age of about 7. Not long after she moved in next door to us I was diagnosed with breast cancer and she was a great help to me as she would come in and chat about everything and anything BUT breast cancer so it took my mind off things.

The best thing was she still had a good relationship with her teenage kids and their mum, the kids used to come and stay for weekends and they went on holiday together.

My own late mum was born shortly after WW1, but she was very progressive and always said she truly believed there were many people out there who were born into the wrong bodies and I have always believed that myself.

The Author

Joanie Marx is a three-time bestselling author and the creator of the new, groundbreaking Refocus & Renew Your Life® online course series on Udemy. She is a graduate of the University of California, Berkeley, with a degree in Psychology, and a leading authority on refocusing and renewing your life.

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