Dealing with Grief and Fears

My Mom, who had been diagnosed with dementia, was leaning up against the sink in the bathroom. Her soapy hands were under running water. I was reaching around her trying to gently use a nail brush to clean under her nails…

Lately, my friends have been decluttering their places and spaces. Good for them! Breaking FREE from our old stuff isn’t easy but it feels great when we do. It feels like a slice of freedom. Everything from closets and garages…

Women are more invested in their relationships than men, on average. So, it makes sense that we would hurt more when our man leaves us or dies. Many are the times I’ve been almost haunted by memories of my husband, torn apart…

In memory of: Sandra “Tee-San” Williams. I made your favorite tomato soup today. Just the right sweetness, a little bit of spice and chunky, just like you like it. I reached for the phone to see if you were home so I could bring you some, and it hit me again. You are not in […]

Fear is a natural part of life. It can creep up slowly, or pop up suddenly, sometimes when we least expect it. That sudden feeling of uncertainty can jar us, when we’re used to being so comfortable in our own skin. But it’s important we recognize…

Losing a spouse is a challenging and transformative experience. Your partner’s death can reshape your life. I get it. It happened to me when my late husband, Tom, passed 17 years ago. His death was the most devastating event I ever faced…

I write often about grieving and the feelings one can experience when they are in the throes of it. Many in the beginning feel that the pain is now so much a part of them that to give it up would somehow be a betrayal to the lost spouse…

A book about a death doula sounds pretty morbid. But I’m here to say that The Collected Regrets of Clover by Mikki Brammer is anything but. It is an uplifting read with themes and wisdom of living well abounding throughout. Yes, there is much to say…

It doesn’t matter if you dated someone for a month, a year, or a lifetime; if you care for someone with whom you can’t stay for whatever reason, the breakup will hurt. And because you’re in your next chapter of life, you don’t want to waste precious time…

It’s likely that by your sixth decade, you’ve experienced at least one life event that shook you to the core. It was perhaps significant enough to divide life into two parts: the before and the after. It sent you reeling. Perhaps you’ve lost a spouse…