What do men over 60 want? For women who have been trying to find that elusive “special someone” for a while, this may seem like an impossible question to answer. After all, for most of our lives, men were simple creatures. Now, as we reach our 50s and 60s, the situation is somewhat more complicated.
To get a view into the male mind after 60, I sat down with dating coach Lisa Copeland for a quick chat. Lisa is a fabulous woman, with a passion for helping women to find quality men. If you have ever noticed that older men are unlikely to make eye contact with you or have felt completely ignored at a dance or party, Lisa thinks she knows why.
In our interview, I asked Lisa this question directly, and she gave me a simple answer. Single men in their 60s are looking for a woman who is feminine and is willing to help them feel like a man. Many women, including myself, spent most of their lives competing with men – at work, in social situations, and even at home.
Now, as we reach our 60s, it’s difficult to put our swords down and just relax a bit. According to Lisa, single men over 60 want women who are in touch with their feminine side. They want encouragement, not criticism. They need confirmation, not competition.
Lisa and I also discussed the perception that men only want to date younger women. Lisa mentioned that this is often the case, but not for the reasons that many of us assume. Men are not always looking for a younger body to cuddle up next to. More important is the fact that younger women are more willing to show their feminine side to win a man’s heart.
Of course, they don’t have our experience, or our battle scars for that matter, but, this is beside the point. Lisa argues that, if we can connect with our feminine side, we can find a quality man, regardless of who we are competing with.
Lisa is a straight shooter. You may not agree with her on every point. Or, you may decide that she is right, but that finding a partner is just not worth the trouble. But I promise you that her opinions come from interactions with hundreds of older women just like you. As a result, she knows what she’s saying, even if her advice is not always pleasant to hear.
When men feel manly, they feel the need to keep the woman in their life safe and protected. They like you to see them as your hero.
Yes, we are independent women and can do everything for ourselves. We’ve definitely earned our independence and equality through the years. But men want to feel needed and like to help when they can. Why not let him do it, even if you know you can?
Men want to help, to fix, to feel needed. There is a way to ask a man to help you. “I need your help” as opposed to “Can you please help me?” can have a huge impact on how he responds to your request.
Let’s face it, none of us are spring chickens and looking at dating profiles of older men can have us questioning how we got to look so old so fast. Women tend to take better care of their youthful appearance by dying their hair and wearing makeup. Men, on the other hand, mostly just accept the grey hair and expect us to accept it as well.
It’s written in our DNA. Men and women have evolved over the years to become more equal, but there still is that need to nourish and protect.
Younger women may need them more and that makes them feel more manly.
An alpha man will be more proactive to keep you safe. You can easily lean into him when you need to and know that he will do everything in his power to keep you protected.
Do you wonder where you can meet men your age? Read our article that lets you in on a few tips and tricks about where to meet older men.
Ever wonder what other women in our community think about finding love after 60? Read our article where some of you discuss your experiences and expectations with senior dating.
Think that you may want to try out online dating? We’ve put together a list of the best dating websites for older people.
Do you think that the feminist movement disrupted our ability to express our feminine side? Are you dating after 60? What has your experience been? Please watch the video and add your thoughts in the comments section below.