Life after 50 is full of distractions, complications and worries. As we approach “retirement,” whatever that means, we are balancing careers, dealing with changing social circumstances and struggling to stay healthy and fit. According to society, our 50s and 60s should be a time of “winding down” and “aging gracefully.” For most baby boomers I know, this really isn’t our style.
One of the strange realities of life is that we assume that everyone else has their lives together while ours is in chaos. The reason for this is that we are all great actors; we are able to hide our imperfections, worries and problems from the world. On the other hand, we know ourselves perfectly because… well we are ourselves.
A few years ago, Rhonda Byrne’s little book, “The Secret” took the world by storm. Her message was simple: if you want good things to happen to you, start thinking positive thoughts. If you imagine yourself becoming wealthy, the universe will, eventually, shower you with riches. There is even an example in the book that talks about how to use your mind to create open parking spaces. Boy, do I wish that worked for me!
Life after 50 is complicated. Over the decades, we have experienced a full spectrum of emotions. We have loved and lost. We have passed milestones and celebrated accomplishments. But, no matter how full our lives have been, we are filled with questions. Did I make the right decisions with my life? Did I do enough? Did I choose the right balance between my career and my family? Was I a good parent and spouse? Do you have any of these thoughts?
What is the purpose of life? This is one of the “biggest” questions facing all of us – but, I think that the women in the Sixty and Me community are up to the challenge!
When we are children, our dreams are limited only by our imagination. But, the time we reach our 60th birthday, many of us have had our crazy ideas and wild fantasies beaten out of us by a cold, cruel world.
The good news is that life after 60 offers the possibility for a second childhood.
When it comes to ageism in Hollywood, the winds of change may soon become a hurricane. Over the last few years, numerous celebrities, including Antonio Banderas and Madonna have spoken out against the evils of ageism. Of course, age discrimination is not limited to Hollywood. Far from it! But, having a few powerful voices on our side can’t hurt.
Do you love yourself? It’s a simple question, but, for most of us, I suspect the answer is complex. On one level, I assume that most of us have the instinct to say “Of course!” But, I’m less sure whether we really mean it. Or, do we perhaps just believe that this is the right thing to say.
When Helen Mirren visited the Top Gear show to do a lap around their test track, she described the experience as “terrifying,” “nerve-wracking,” “adrenaline pumping,” “sweat making,” and ultimately, “fabulous!”
Over the last few years, I have had the opportunity to talk with 1000s of women in the Sixty and Me community. Through these discussions, nothing has struck me more profoundly than the desire for women over 60 to live life in their own way.