When I asked the Boomerly community whether they still believed that it’s possible to find love after 50, I knew what to expect. I was prepared for a fairly even split between people that thought that finding love after 50 is possible and those who have given up entirely on finding a romantic relationship.
As our generation gets a little older, a surprising number of us are putting on our dancing shoes and getting back in the senior dating game. After all, more women over 60 are single than ever before, whether that’s due to divorce or widowhood or just never having been married in the first place.
When you ask most single older people if they would like to find love after 50, the answer is almost always yes. But, if you ask them whether they think it is actually possible to find love after 50, their answers are more mixed. Some people believe that finding love is possible at any age. Others are skeptical.
One of the best things about running Sixty and Me is that I get to interview so many fascinating people. Recently, I have interviewed over 50 dating coaches and entrepreneurs, doctors and yoga teachers. Each discussion was unique in its own way, but, I have to be honest that I have a special place in my heart for my interview with dating coach, David Wygant.
I’ve met a lot of discouraged mid-life ladies, women who worry that, when it comes to dating after 60, all men want is someone young and hot. And yes, most men would like to find a younger woman; and they put a premium on aspects of beauty that are tough to maintain as we age. I could tell you they don’t, but I’d be lying, undercutting my own credibility, and going against data collected all over the world.
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Many older single women spend a lot of time looking for an attractive, kind, older, single man. While it’s true that some of us find the man of our dreams after 60, the majority of women that I have spoken to are deeply skeptical of this approach.
Women in their 60s have enjoyed wonderful relationships and experienced their share of disappointments too. Some of us got married right out of high-school. Others waited until their 20s or 30s to tie the knot. Still others of us decided to stay single and chart our own course.
Regardless of the paths that we took, most of us quickly came to understand men. We may not have always liked what we saw, but, unlike men, who constantly ask “what do women want,” we knew what to expect from the opposite sex.
There is a powerful quote by Maya Angelou that says “To those who have given up on love, I say trust life a little bit.” In the past, when I have shared this quote with the women in our community, I have been met with sad, almost cynical responses.
I love trains. There’s something about zipping through the country side that makes me feel like I’m in an adventure novel. Perhaps it’s the hustle and bustle that I find appealing. Or, maybe it’s just the idea of “going on an adventure” that takes me back to being a little girl, my head full of dreams.
Living in Switzerland, I’m fortunate to have the opportunity to take the train to Paris from time to time. No matter how many times I go, I always learn something new. This trip was no exception!