Have you ever found that completing a dreaded task is easier when someone shares it? Or that organizing the big jobs into small steps makes them much less difficult? For many women over 60, creating a good end-of-life plan can seem overwhelming.
A friend asked me a question the other day: “This writing thing of yours; is it a hobby or do you see it as a profession?”
Even after I’d given him my answer, I chewed on the question for a while. It didn’t really matter what my answer was – encore career or a hobby. For me, the more important truth was this:
It’s a subject no one wants to talk about. Though death and dying are inevitable, we shy away from discussing them… and all the sadness and pain we fear goes with it. However, developing an end of life plan is a gift you give to yourself and those left behind and the process can be a surprisingly intimate and enriching one.
My husband and I recently escaped the snows in Idaho for a first-time vacation in Belize. The travel brochures claimed the water around the tiny island of San Pedro offered some of the world’s best snorkeling, so we signed up for an excursion.
I recently read the book Make Your Bed by Admiral William H. McRaven. This inspiring read is about lessons the author learned from basic SEAL training.
My friend’s mother died recently after a sudden stroke, and among her belongings he and his siblings discovered volumes of journals, going back 40 years. They started reading through these family artifacts and learned a lot. Perhaps more than they wanted to.
Having been in a bad marriage for more than 30 years, I thought I was the biggest loser on the planet. I felt I was certainly not attractive and unappealing. I was overweight. I was not good at making money, but I was good at spending them. I wasn’t sexy at all and had zero sex appeal.
When it comes to life after 60, happiness and positivity are often hard to find. It’s easy to look to external sources of our problems. We might blame someone else for our financial difficulties. Or, we may curse our “bad luck” for having to deal with an illness, divorce or other challenging situation.
Since the popularity of the modern yoga and meditation movement several decades ago, specifically the late 80s and early 90s, practitioners and gurus have focused on creating a stronger connection between the mind, body, and spirit.