When you’re in your 50s, or even 60s, it’s hard to imagine what old age is really like. You start to get a feeling for it by watching your parents. Perhaps you even have a few aches and pains – emotional and physical – to deal with. But, for the most part, most baby boomers don’t consider themselves “old.” Most of us even have trouble seeing ourselves as “seniors,” even if we technically fall into this category according to our age.
The most interesting women over 60 that I know have more than their share of emotional battle scars. It seems like the more interesting our lives are, the more of a burden we are asked to bear. Does it sometimes feel the same to you?
If there’s one thing that people in their 60s hate, it’s being labelled. After all, we have fought back against stereotypes and boundaries all our lives. Now, as we get a little older, we want to be treated as individuals and tend to reject group names.
Women over 60 have so much wisdom to share with the world. So, why does it feel like we are expected to be silent? Maybe it has something to do with how older people are portrayed in movies and on TV. Other the occasional “angry seniors”, most of the men and women over 60 that you see on screen are happy to age gracefully.
There is a timeless quality that women of all ages share – a feminine thread that connects young and old. As women in our 60s, we have had many roles. We were girlfriends and students. Many of us are mothers and grandmothers. All of us were workers and contributors to society.
Every December we look ahead at the future and take a deep breath. It’s been quite a year hasn’t it? I am absolutely sure that is true for every single person in our community.
Ok, hands up everyone who is looking back on 2014 and thinking “wow, what a year!” I’ve been so wonderfully busy with Sixty and me interviews, writing, and filming that I don’t know where the time has gone!
Gift giving is a true art – one that most women over 60 have perfected over the years. We have bought gifts for our children, husbands, friends, teachers, nurses, mailmen, and even the neighbor’s dog.
We like to thank people, because we know what it means to be appreciated. We understand that the value of a gift is not measured by what it costs, but in the planning and thoughtfulness that went into the purchase. You know that old phrase.
Many women in their 60s feel invisible. When we walk down the street or into a crowded room, it’s easy to feel like nobody notices us, especially men. There is probably some truth to this. After all, our youth obsessed culture seems to place a much higher value on physical appearance than acquired wisdom.
If you’re a woman over 60, I guarantee that, at some point in the last few years, a young store clerk has called you “dear,” “honey,” or “love.” They are just trying to be sweet, of course. At the same time, they would never call someone their own age one of these names. So, why do we get the “honor” of being pampered with such gentle and obsequious titles?