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26 Surprising Habits of Happy Older Women (#18 Might Catch You Unprepared)

By Ellen Bachmeyer October 29, 2023 Mindset

The beauty of aging is that we get to take time to reflect on who we are and what we want out of the rest of our life. It can be a time when our lives blossom. Here are some observations from the many conversations I have had with aging women.

The thoughts below are just thoughts. Happiness is experienced in the moment. For a thought to become a habit, it requires awareness, intention and dedicated action. If you choose to embrace any of these thoughts and make them habits, it will definitely create space for a happy and thriving life.

1. They feel comfortable in their own skin. They have “come into their own being.”

2. They never stop learning.

3. They feed their intellect and soul with a new, beautiful awareness of themselves and the world, every day.

4. They don’t sweat the small stuff. They see the larger picture.

5. They are always trying new things. They don’t believe in the saying that “curiosity killed the cat!”

6. They appreciate “alone time.” They understand the difference between lonely and alone.

7. They live for the journey, not the destination.

8. They spend time in nature because they know nature is a reflection of their own beauty and gives them a larger context in which they live and love.

9. They know the value of friendship and are always growing and seeking new friends.

10. They are not afraid of emotions. They feel deeply and definitely don’t see emotions as a sign of weakness.

11. They do not sit in judgment of others or of themselves.

12. They understand the sacred nature in each person that makes up their world.

13. They do not spend their time on relationships where people do not nurture and nourish one another.

14. They have healthy personal boundaries, not walls.

15. They respect their children’s boundaries and admire their successes.

16. They do not blame others because in doing so they give away their power.

17. They seek love.

18. They take care of their bodies and leave the shame of not having the ‘perfect’ figure for the younger generations. If possible, they are physically active.

19. They are invested in the greater good and seek to make some kind of contribution in the world.

20. They know their wisdom and speak it.

21. They have a creative aspect of their life – be it writing, music, a hobby or craft.

22. They don’t sweat the small stuff. They always trust they will find a way through or around a troubling issue.

23. They understand that it is okay to ask for help.

24. They see the glass as half-full and not half-empty.

25. They laugh, sing, dance, read and celebrate every moment of their life.

26. They have a vision and intention for each day, week, year and decade. They set an intention each day for thriving.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you have habits that bring you happiness? Which ones are you especially proud of? Please share in the comments below.

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marlene king

I like my hobby of candy-making in the summer time and goodie baking in the winter time. I expecially enjoy the way I display gifts of my craft. by the way I will turn 86 years old this December!! I say “come on age 90, it’s gonna be a wild ride!! Marlene


This is so powerful, thank you! I’m struggling to manage distressing thoughts, but I gather insight & hope from these articles. My deep thanks & gratitude!

Meredith OBrien

I love this list as well. As I went through it I noted some things I need to work on and others describe me as I am. Very Blessed. I love reading your posts.


At 60, I retired from Nursing and decided to take care of me! Started out walking,lost 60 pounds and was running 5 miles a day. Four years later, I have to readjust do to a back that says “nope”. D and L4. And L5. Gotta get creative. I still plan on being active with my “visiting angel” when I get to “old age” .

Catherine Vance

#17. They seek love. How about, “they give love.” Do at least one thing every day that brightened the day for someone else. A frazzled store clerk: “You have such pretty hair.”
It doesn’t even have to be true. One day, a store clerk admired my tiger’s-eye necklace
(from a garage sale). I took it off and put it around her neck. It is these small kindnesses that make a difference in our lives.

The Author

Ellen Bachmeyer, LCSW, is a practicing psychotherapist and Life Coach, she has supported women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond through many life transitions from divorce to caretaking and grieving, to remarriage, grand parenting and encore careers. Ellen offers assistance in recapturing your life's vitality, rebalancing, satisfying your needs and renewing your power to take meaningful action in your life.

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