When I ask the members of our community what challenges they are facing, a lack of meaningful friendships and a lack of financial resources are at the top of the list. On the surface, these are different issues, with different causes. But, if you dig a little deeper, they both relate to our changing circumstances.
By the time you reach your 60th birthday, you have a pretty good idea of who you are. You have faced all of the challenges that life has thrown your way and you have emerged victorious – ok, a little bruised too, but, victorious none-the-less.
At the same time, by the time we reach our 60s, many people find that the person that they are on the inside and the person that they are on the outside have moved far apart.
I love the sunshine. There is something about basking in the warmth of summer – wearing sunscreen of course – that makes me feel deeply happy. Or does it?
After reading a new study from the University of Westminster, I’m beginning to question whether the idea that the weather affects my mood is all in my head.
Do people smile because they are happy? Or, are people happy because they smile? These questions get to the heart of life after 60. Of course, both statements are true. Smiles are a reflection of how we feel. But, at the same time, happiness requires conscious effort.
You probably know by now that laughter is good for you. For starters, according to the Mayo Clinic, laughter is an immediate stress-reliever. Over the long-term, it may even help to boost your immune system and increase your sense of personal satisfaction. In addition, as I just wrote about, laughter may also be one of the keys to building trusting relationships.
Finding happiness after 60 can be tough. Many of us are struggling to save enough for retirement. Others are dealing with changing social circumstances or a divorce. All of us are discovering that staying in great shape isn’t as easy as it used to be. That’s the bad news.
What was the happiest moment of your life? It’s a harder question that it appears on the surface. Happiness is an abstract concept and one that is difficult to measure. Its source is also a mystery.
One of the main problems with concepts like finding happiness is that they are hard to define. For most of human history, self-help gurus, writers and religious leaders owned these topics. Science was limited in its ability to enter the happiness discussion because it couldn’t look inside the human brain. Well, now, all that is changing.
If I asked you when you were happiest in your life, what would you say? Would you say that you were happiest in your 20s, when you were starting your career or finishing university? Or, were you happiest in your 30s, when you were building your career and raising your children? Or, are you perhaps happiest now?
Have you every had to tell yourself to stop being so hard on yourself? If you’re like most people, the words that form in your head are probably automatic. Most of the time, there is nothing wrong with this. After all, it would be exhausting to analyze everything that we said to ourselves. At the same time, if you are feeling stressed or anxious, it is possible that your own negative self-talk is part of the problem.