The holidays aren’t always a happy time – for some they’re reminders that they are lone, whether they’re widowed, divorced, separated or simply away from family and friends. Add grief to that and it’s even more difficult. Loneliness is painful.
Do you want Christmas to be more than the dazzle of gifts and tinsel, either for yourself, or your child or grandchild?
Most of us have at least one or two caregivers in our lives. As the holidays arrive and gift lists are being made, we often come at a loss when we need to think of an appropriate gift for caregivers.
With a week left until Christmas, family members all over the world are making silent, solemn, last-minute promises to be nice and not naughty this season when they gather together to celebrate the holidays.
I was originally going to title this post “Surviving the Holidays,” and we all would immediately know what that meant – not gaining a million pounds and still be talking to our family when it’s all over. But if our goal is just to ‘survive,’ then if we achieve our goal, we survive. How satisfying is that?
As a child, I wanted nothing more than to sit with the grown-ups at the holiday table. But as the oldest of my four cousins and one brother, that was not possible. I was the designated President of the Little Table; the gatekeeper, if you will, between the two worlds.
The holidays tend to be charged with lots of emotion and plenty of myths about this ‘magical’ time of year, especially for those of us in the decades beyond 60. Wandering through a mall in search of the ideal gift can be exhausting. It’s a time of high expectations that often go unfulfilled…
Have your Christmas tree traditions changed over the years? Many of my friends have opted for artificial trees for ease and cost. This, at first, does make sense since they use the artificial trees year after year.
Do you spend weeks hunting in shops or spend hours on your computer looking for the perfect Christmas gifts? Gift giving can be an exhausting and emotionally draining experience as we struggle to find just the right gifts for our family and friends.
Forgive my ‘Bah humbug!’ assumption – and if you adore Christmas feel free to stop reading now.
But if the approach – or should that be onslaught? – of the festive season makes your heart sink, then here’s something to bear in mind: How you feel about Christmas depends largely on the perspective you choose to take – and note, I said ‘choose.’