Even though we probably don’t realize it, throughout our lives, we have been bombarded with images of the stereotypical “cute little old couple.” In the movies and on TV, growing old with someone else is portrayed as “normal.” Single older people are generally shown to be depressed, lonely, mean or anti-social.
When an acquaintance, Michael, shared with me that he had lost his job at a small law firm, it opened a new level of communication between us. We talked about his new situation and he told me he was very appreciative of having my ear. I’d see him most mornings at the dog park where our dogs played together.
If you were brought up in the 60’s and 70’s, chances are you were trained to be a strong, independent woman. It’s likely you were taught you didn’t need a man in your life. You thought that anything a man could do, you could probably do even better.
The definition of Ghosting according to Urban Dictionary is, “The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date.”
A better definition is… you and I meet, we have amazing chemistry, we hang out and have awesome sex. I bond to you and then you disappear, ultimately breaking my heart. You don’t answer my calls or texts and I am so confused and concerned.
Have you been married for more than 30 years? Congratulations!
Whether you have reached this milestone with almost no friction, or, like most couples, had to deal with plenty of “plateaus” over the years, this is definitely something to be celebrated.
The senior dating game can be tough. Not only can it bruise your ego, but, it can also bring up all the unhealed rejection that happened earlier in life.
Recently, I received a letter from a woman who told me nothing is working in her dating life. No one is interested in her. No one is interested in her friends either.
They, like her, are experiencing loneliness and a lack of contact with men.
If you ask a group of single older women describe their experiences with senior dating, you will face sighs, knowing chuckles and more than a few rolled eyes. Many women who dipped their toes in the over 50 dating waters, quickly pulled them out again. Others stayed in the dating pool halfheartedly, trying not to get scammed or hurt more than really looking for someone exciting to spend time with.
Loving relationships are tricky at any age, but, according to dating coach David Wygant, its men over 50 who really shoot themselves in the foot! After years in the dating game, older men somehow forget how to approach women.