I want to share a secret with you. Like many women over 60, I am dealing with loneliness. Some days I just feel a little isolated from the world. Other days — well, I don’t like to talk about those days. Let’s just say that there are times when the quiet corridors of my mind are dangerous places to wander.
As I walk, I see doors to little dusty rooms, holding sharp memories. Worse are the big brass doors that hold my fondest memories. These barriers stop me from spending too much time in the past, when every day was filled with my family, friends and laughter.
What pops into your mind when you think about the following question – what does it take to get the most from life after 60? If you are like most people, your thoughts probably jumped to suggestions like “being more productive” or “following your passions.” There is nothing wrong with these instincts. After all, getting the most from every day requires us to take a proactive approach to how we structure our days.
If you are wondering how to overcome loneliness, you may want to start by looking around your house. It is often said that your home is a reflection of your mind. They say that the choices we make in how we decorate, who we invite into our homes and how we spend our time reflect our personality and values. This is true to an extent, but, did you ever think about the fact that the opposite is also true?
Did you ever consider that the way that you organize your home may be contributing to your feelings of loneliness, or intimacy after 60?
One of the most common misconceptions about loneliness is that it goes away as we add more people to our lives. Nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, many people that I know have 100’s of “friends” on Facebook. They may even live with someone else. But, they still feel lonely.
As anyone who has experienced loneliness can tell you, feeling lonely is not the same as being alone. At the same time, it is possible to have many people in your life, while still feeling lonely.
Sometimes, the circumstances that lead to our loneliness are out of our control. Some of us have lost our spouses or gone through a divorce. Others have children who are building their own lives in another part of the world.
Loneliness is an issue that affects not only individuals, but, society in general. The health implications of loneliness alone should be enough to make governments stand up and take notice, but, for some reason, most of them haven’t.
For many women in the Sixty and Me community, healthy aging requires more than making simple choices about what to eat and who to spend time with. Staying healthy after 60 also means getting the most from life after 60. The more we live, the healthier we become, and vice versa.
Here are a few ways that the women in our community are living with verve and passion:
According to the women in the Sixty and Me community, losing weight and making new friends are two of the things that we struggle with the most after 60.
I can certainly relate to this. There are days when I sit behind my desk for hours at a time, barely lifting my head for long enough to make a light snack, let alone get to the gym. Whether your weakness is the computer or the TV, I suspect that many of you feel the same.
It’s ironic that the winter holidays, which are meant to be filled with relaxation, love and peace, often turn out to be a time of stress and tension.
Like many women, I never quite found my groove when it came to fitness. Gyms were no go zones for me. It wasn’t just a matter of laziness. It also felt like the travel time, expensive clothes, complicated equipment, showering and coordination would take away from my other priorities.