Most women my age, to one degree or another, are wondering how to deal with stress and anxiety. Some people, like me, even thrive with a little stress in our lives. We feel that stress, up to a certain point, makes us stronger and more alive.
Others fear stress or all kinds and do everything that they can to avoid it. What stresses you out? Do you think that there are some kinds of stress that are positive, while others are negative?
Feeling lonely is difficult to talk about. At times, it feels like loneliness is not just a feeling, but, a reflection of our place in society. Maybe we feel like we should be able to “take control” or “just get out there and meet people.” That’s certainly what society would like us to believe. Or perhaps we feel like we are alone in our loneliness – that we are one of only a handful of lonely people.
As a society, we love to talk about what lonely people are doing wrong. Some of the advice that people give is productive and well-intentioned, but, today, I came across a quote that I absolutely disagree with. The quote was by Joseph F. Newton, who said “People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.”
How do you respond to stress in your life? Do you go for a long walk in the park? Do you watch a funny movie? Do you reach for a large bucket of chocolate-mint ice-cream? Or, do you turn to healthy food options?
People tend to think that overcoming loneliness is all about building connections with other people. As a result, most of the advice that you will hear when you tell someone that you are feeling lonely can be paraphrased as “what’s the problem? Just get out there and meet more people.”
As we get a little older, we tend to lose our muscle strength, flexibility, and balance. This is a part of life. Fortunately, running after 60 is a terrific way to strengthen our bodies, while improving our cardiovascular health. Running offers other great health benefits like reduced risk of heart disease, cancer, diabetes, depression and dementia.
Here are a few insights and ideas to help you get started with running after 60:
I want to share a secret with you. Like many women over 60, I am dealing with loneliness. Some days I just feel a little isolated from the world. Other days — well, I don’t like to talk about those days. Let’s just say that there are times when the quiet corridors of my mind are dangerous places to wander.
As I walk, I see doors to little dusty rooms, holding sharp memories. Worse are the big brass doors that hold my fondest memories. These barriers stop me from spending too much time in the past, when every day was filled with my family, friends and laughter.
If you are wondering how to overcome loneliness, you may want to start by looking around your house. It is often said that your home is a reflection of your mind. They say that the choices we make in how we decorate, who we invite into our homes and how we spend our time reflect our personality and values. This is true to an extent, but, did you ever think about the fact that the opposite is also true?
Did you ever consider that the way that you organize your home may be contributing to your feelings of loneliness, or intimacy after 60?
Loneliness is an issue that affects not only individuals, but, society in general. The health implications of loneliness alone should be enough to make governments stand up and take notice, but, for some reason, most of them haven’t.
For many women in the Sixty and Me community, healthy aging requires more than making simple choices about what to eat and who to spend time with. Staying healthy after 60 also means getting the most from life after 60. The more we live, the healthier we become, and vice versa.
Here are a few ways that the women in our community are living with verve and passion: