If Only… I Loved the Life I Have
I’ve been thinking about all those “if onlys” expressed by people seemingly to communicate regret or remorse. I’ve also heard a lot of “what ifs” expressed, indicating anxiety about the future. Both of those prevent us from firmly planning us in the present…
Read MoreSecure Your Legacy: 3 Ways to Have an Impact After You’re Gone
As a former non-profit director, I used to help raise money for teaching and learning. One of our most successful fund-raising campaigns was a donor wall. Those who contributed a certain amount would forever have their names inscribed on a beautiful wall…
Read MoreCan We Find Understanding with Our Ex?
For a brief moment, I heard the universe vibrate when I thought a man was a God; I had never experienced soul-moving love before. I was 33. I’m older now, and I have experienced love since, but not in a way where I felt the cosmos crack open…
Read MoreHave You Considered Retiring to a New Country?
Here’s a question. Say you are one of a couple, or just yourself if unattached, and you expect to work for maybe 10 more years, and then retire. If someone asked you to describe in a few sentences what you expected life to be like about 15 years…
Read MoreSign Up to Show Up: How to Torture Yourself into Change (And Have Fun in the Process)
My mantra when I was a manager at an internet company was: Embrace constant positive change. I used to relay that to my staff all the time. It came from a tech guru I admired, and considering the fast pace of the work we were doing…
Read MoreMy Continuing Friendship with My Two Exes
I ask myself this question often: how did I remain good friends with not one, but two ex-husbands? First, let me say that I am eternally grateful for that. There is no magic answer, but rather an ironic one; I chose two good men. If tomorrow…
Read MoreCutting Ties with People-Pleasing
How often have you sacrificed your well-being by placing other people’s desires, wants and needs above your own? If you can relate, you are not alone. According a 2022 YouGov survey, 49% of Americans self-identify as people-pleasers…
Read MoreMy 5-Step Guide for Dealing with Aging
I can’t remember who said that “aging is not for the weak.” And if you think about it, that’s very true. In working with hundreds of women over the age of 40, I have learned that the aging process effects every woman differently. Some gracefully slide…
Read More4 Destructive Loans to Avoid in Retirement
If you need to borrow money, whether it’s for emergency expenses or a one-time purchase or just to get by while waiting for a new job or the sale of a home or some other influx of cash, there are a few types of loans that women over 60 definitely need to avoid. Here are a few types of risky loans to avoid if you need to borrow money:
Read MoreWanderlust in Japan and Elsewhere
My partner and I just experienced an amazing first trip to Japan, sharing part of it with family. To be honest, a visit to Japan had never been on the bucket list. That changed with a grandson’s six-month deployment to the U.S. Marine base in Okinawa…
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